So... what should i do?
So.. I’m (F36) in this long-distance relationship with this guy (M36). He’s from the US and has three kids. We were doing fine, talking every day on the phone and texting all the time.
A bit of context: we met through a mobile game called Last War. He’s the R4 of the alliance I’m in, and right now we’re in a new season.
Well, two weeks ago everything changed... he stopped calling me as much—maybe every three or four days—and we don’t text that often anymore. He still says he really likes me and wants to be with me, but:
A) He needs to move ASAP to a new place because he’s had some issues with his landlord. The problem is, he can’t find anything as cheap as where he’s at now, and he only has two weeks left to move.
B) He’s super invested in the game and helps everyone out. That never really bothered me before, but lately, I feel like he’d rather play than talk to me.
C) He usually doesn’t have a lot of work, but the last few weeks have been hell for him.
He told me he knows he’s kind of... drifted away a bit from the relationship, but he says that when he feels overwhelmed with stuff to do, he tends to shut down until everything settles. I’ve always tried to be understanding of his timing, since I don’t have kids and I work from home—but honestly, I feel like he’s being really unfair with how he’s handling the relationship and his time with me. If he wants a relationship, he needs to understand that it takes time and effort. I’m not asking for as much time as before, but I do think I deserve to be a priority, not just waiting around for whenever he feels like talking or has time for me.
I talked to him yesterday, and he said he’d try to get his act together. Today we talked a bit more, but... it also made me realize that I’m probably not a priority for him.
I don’t know if I should wait for this rough patch to pass and then see how things go, or just take a step back and let him sort out his life while I keep living mine.
Thanks for reading me.