I (28F) am wondering whether I should keep trying with this guy (27M) or let him go. Wha would you do?
Hey guys! I’d love some of your insights on this.
I (28f) am an anxious person learning to become secure. I’ve been seeing this guy (27m) for a month now and I love how chill and sweet he is. He’s claimed that he likes to be alone and that he doesn’t like texting that much. I am like that too, so it’s not a problem. We’ve also had deep conversations and he seems to be a good communicator (and vulnerable) overall.
Now, there is one thing that makes me wonder whether he’d be a secure partner or not:
- Planning a date has felt like pulling teeth lately. I told him during the week that I wanted to see him on Saturday/Sunday. He said he wanted to see me too. He’s a bus driver and doesn’t have a fixed schedule (he is told what shift he’ll get the day before). On Friday, I asked him. He said he could make it on Monday. I chose the activity (bowling), he said he liked it, and I asked if 8 p.m. worked for him. He had a family emergency on Saturday morning (solved already) and we haven’t talked about our plans since. My question was left in the air and I don’t know whether to bring it up again. I don’t want to be pushy.
The last time I saw him was 8 days ago and I’m getting a little tired of texting tbh.
He‘s great in other areas. He reassures me, he’s physically affectionate, funny, a good listener… I like it that he’s chill, but maybe now he is TOO chill and I don’t know how to navigate that.
Any advice? And sorry for any mistakes, English is not my first language!