24M trying to leave a 23F after 5 months, but she refuses to accept the breakup and keeps threatening that something bad will happen if I leave
I’m 24M and my girlfriend is 22F. We’ve been together for about 5 months.
Recently I lost trust in the relationship after finding hidden/deleted chats with a guy she knew I was uncomfortable with. I don’t have proof she cheated, but the secrecy and deleting messages destroyed my trust.
Over the last few days I’ve realized I don’t want to continue the relationship. Talking to her now makes me stressed and emotionally exhausted rather than happy.
The problem is that she refuses to accept the breakup. Every time I try to end things, she cries, has panic attacks, says she can’t eat or sleep, says she’s getting suicidal thoughts, says something bad might happen to her, and tells me I’ll regret leaving.
I’ve repeatedly asked for space, but she keeps texting and calling, saying distance will only make us drift apart and that we need to fix everything immediately.
At this point I don’t feel the same way anymore and I want to leave, but I’m scared because of the things she’s saying about harming herself or something bad happening if I go.
How do I handle this situation? Am I responsible for staying because she’s reacting this way, or is there a healthy way to end the relationship without feeling trapped by guilt and fear?