I’m confused
I started dating a guy around July last year. Everything was going well. I felt happier than ever in a relationship. We liked each other and enjoyed plenty of fun times together. But one day, he told me he needed to discuss something important.
He said, 'I cannot be in a relationship because things are going fine, and it's scary.” I didn't understand what he meant. I asked him repeatedly but couldn't grasp it. I cried because I felt I was losing someone I liked very much for no reason. He couldn't clearly express his feelings at that time, but he wanted to stay friends so he wouldn't lose me. I told him I didn't want to be friends, and I couldn't.
Our relationship was unstable, on and off, for a few months. Everytime he breaks up, he reached out to me to know how I was doing.
We finally broke up on May 1. During the breakup conversation, he admitted he was afraid of getting close to someone and tended to sabotage the relationship whenever we became emotionally close. I tried to reassure him that this was just a belief that could be changed and even suggested he see a therapist since he seemed to be struggling with things he couldn't explain. He refused, making it clear he didn't want to continue the relationship. This was the third time he had distanced himself.
We didn't speak for several days, but on May 18, he reached out to ask how I was doing. I had been trying to move on and heal, trusting my decision that I couldn't stay with him because of his push-and-pull behavior.
Now, we are communicating again, but I maintain some boundaries because I fear getting hurt again. Still, I can't stop liking him. I appreciate who he is, but it's causing me pain.
What do I do?