Am I being being “clingy” or “jealous”?
Okay so,
I’ve been seeing this guy for about 3 and a half months now. Yes, we are intimate. We don’t talk everyday, I prefer it that way. I believe he does too.
In my previous relationship I was very jealous and controlling, I’ve made progress in those aspects of my life. Granted, it’s been two years since I’ve been with someone romantically and intimately.
I met through this guy at work ( I know ….i know) and we established a platonic connection for about for 5 months before we became intimate. we had good conversations, we had a lot of similarities and I felt the need to want to get to know him more.
Fast forward to the past month, the feeling of jealousy has been creeping up again. He is a social person and I would say charismatic. A very handsome man as well, so naturally he gets a lot of female attention. Which is fine, but I find myself overthinking that he is “flirting” with these girls. I don’t say anything because it’s really not my place and again he is pretty social. But it does bother me…..
sometimes I think to myself that I fell for the charisma and looks and I’m probably just another dumb girl.
While he is social, I noticed he kind of doesn’t pick up social ques unless you’re very direct with him. But like I said he’s not a person who likes to text everyday and especially all day. I wouldn’t say I am not a big texter either. We both enjoy our “me time”. So we maybe hang out like 2x a month, we’ve had sex 4/6 times we hung out.
Anyways, I find myself wanting more of his time and I feel like it’s coming from a place of insecurity because I notice him talking to other women. I feel like it’s turning into me wanting to be “chosen”. I’m all for waiting it out to establish if we have a genuine connection, but I find myself wanting to rush into things lately.
Is this being clingy? Am I being jealous and overthinking his interactions with other women? This way of thinking has really been ruining my day, and I try so hard not have it affect the way I treat him. But damn my crazy is slowly slipping through. Luckily I have way better self control and go do something to distract myself from the feeling of jealousy.
I will add, that I do think he likes me and tbh I don’t think he has the emotional or mental capacity to have multiple partners, but also I could be completely wrong. Idk if this helps but he is an Aquarius and they are notorious for loving their space and disappearing. Maybe im using astrology to over look things 😂😂 (I’m a Sagittarius )