AITAH for not paying June rent when I won’t be moving til July.
My friend and her boyfriend broke up this month, technically I don’t think they’re fully broken up but he’s moving out of their place so they basically are. I offered to move into her place to help her out. Her boyfriend started looking for a place about 2 weeks ago I think? I don’t know I’m not super involved. Regardless my current roommate didn’t want me not to move in June because she can’t start working til July.
Me, my other friend and roommate all had a conversation about it last week and I checked and my friends boyfriend still hadn’t found a place, plus he wants to rehome his dog and hadn’t found a place for the dog yet. Im going on a trip starting Friday, til mid June. I got confirmed that he hadn’t found a place and I’m not expected to move for June so I booked some rather pricey appointments during my trip, and prepaid June rent for my current place, paid June rent at my storage unit, etc.
My friends boyfriend just found a place and is moving for June first. I told my friend I’m not moving in for June. I’m not in a position for that, and put bluntly I’m not interested in paying for rent in 2 separate homes in June when I’m not even here for half the month. Also, boyfriends dog is still going to be there in June, he’s not sure he wants to rehome him at all anymore so it sounds like it’s going to take a while for him to figure that out. I’m not moving into a house with a dog that’s known to be aggressive towards other animals with my cat. He’s pissed off, and thinks I’m fucking my friend/his girlfriend over because I had “lots of time to figure this out”. When he’s the one who’s given me less than 2 weeks notice. And again, I won’t be here for half of June, I’m about to leave the province for a couple weeks. Also- His dog is still there and I won’t move my cat in with his dog.
He thinks I should pay a damage deposit before June 1st so he can get his half of the damage deposit because he doesn’t want to cover for my half, which is fine; but I’m not paying a damage deposit for June when I’m not living in the house. I could cancel my tattoo appointment next week and use that extra money for a deposit and June rent, but I don’t feel like I should have to? I have enough income to comfortably move for July 1st and pay my deposits and keep my trip and appointments as is, and I was told my move in date was July not June. I haven’t even actually given my current landlord notice yet, I was going to do it after my friends boyfriend got his stuff and dog out of the new place I’m going so I know for sure he’s gone.
But I do feel guilty because I know financially this is going to be tough on my friend, and her boyfriend is blaming me, calling me an asshole for this but I’m not the one who went back and forth with the move dates, I’m not the one going through a breakup. I’m the one who’s moving when I don’t need to, to help them out because they broke up. I think that’s all the help I need to give, not pay an unexpected extra month of rent when I already paid for June’s rent at my current place because I was told I won’t be moving till July.