Am I in the wrong?
Sorry if some stuff is miss spelled typing on phone. Am I in the wrong for breaking my nephews PlayStation video game. My nephew is 14 yrs old and just got out of juvenile detention for injuring his sibling because they were teasing him. His sibling was 10. He spent 8 mths in juvie and has apparently not learned the lesson and immediately went back to his old ways. My mom their grandma has legal custody and has adopted them cause both their parents were deemed unfit and had their rights taken away, so my mom did the right thing and said no don't put them with strangers I'll be their guardian and raise them. Never more happy or proved of my mom. But my nephew is always been a problem. He was never punished by his parents. Or if his parents punished him they never followed through with the punishment. So he has angry issues and he wants to be in charge of everything and gets mad when it doesn't happen. For some context. So when my nephew got out of juvie, month and a half ago, after he was home for two days and getting mad and throwing stuff upstairs just cause he couldn't find some stuff animals grandma had put in a bag when she cleaned his room, When he was sent to juvie, he threw stuff around in his room. I looked him in the eyes in front of my mom and his three siblings, my two kids and said look, I get that you get upset and mad, and your first thought is to go to your room and throw stuff. That's fine by all means through YOUR stuff. If you want to break your stuff go right ahead it's your stuff. But if you break anything that is not yours I'm going to break two things that's yours. You may wonder if they are not my kids why set rules. Well my mom asked me to come stay with her to help with these kids cause shes getting older and at her wits end. So I'm only staying with her with my kids to help with her kids. I said the whole thing about if he broke anyone's stuff that was not his and I would break two of his stuff because my mom said that 97 percent of the time he breaks his own belongings. So I figured I would never have to do it, and I've learned usually just the threat of a conquence will usually prevent people from doing it. So brings me to two and a half weeks ago..my mom was staying at a friend's house for a break, and for memorial weekend. I just pull into the drive way from dropping my mom her medicine that she forget. When my nephew,my son,and my daughter are on the porch. Nothing new all of them usually are. When I get on the porch I notice my son is crying and my daughter is also. I go what happened thinking that they fell accidentally or something. When my daughter says, cause my son is crying to much to understand, my nephew broke their umbrellas. I said huh what umbrellas? They showed them to me. Why did he break the umbrellas? My son goes cause he's mean. Look at my nephew, he said that my son was swinging the umbrella and it hit him in the face. I said which umbrella? He said this one picked up my son's spider man umbrella. I said ok was it on purpose or an accident? My nephew said on purpose. Mind you he's 14 my son is 5. I said okay. So why did you also break this umbrella if he hit you with the spideman one? Cause I was mad. I said okay. Looked at my daughter who was clearly not involved and go what happened. My nephew goes do you not believe me. I said it's not about believing, she didn't hit you did she? He goes no. So she's not at risk of being in trouble is she? He goes no, so she impartial I'm going to ask her. I go what happened. She says bubby was spinning with the spider umbrella when it hit nephew in the arm, nephew took umbrella and started hitting off railing. Then grabbed my umbrella and does it to mine. And she started crying. So I looked at my nephew and say after taking a breath, what did I tell you what was going to happen if you broke something that wasn't yours. He says you were going to break two of my stuff. I go exactly, as I'm walking into the house with him following me, and my kids and his siblings coming into the living room. When everyone's around I say, I told you if your broke anyone's stuff that wasn't yours im breaking two of yours. Pick up his five nights of Freddy PlayStation game and broke it in half. His older sister says, don't you think that's a bit harsh, I said no, he knew the consequences of his actions if he were to break anyone's stuff and he still did it. So, i say this is the consequence,as I throw it away. Now was that to harsh? Was I in the wrong cause he brought it up today when I was helping him with his chore, and started raising his voice and said I owed him 20 dollars to replace the game I broke. I said no, cause that was a consequence of your breaking something that wasn't yours. My mom said he is just upset. I said I don't care, I didn't bring it up, so why should he it's done and over with. She looked at him and said forget it she doesn't apologize to anyone. I said your right I don't apologize if I'm right, and I always don't apologize to children for teaching them a lesson.
So reddit am I in the wrong?
Should I apologize to a 14 yr kid for teaching him a lesson?