u/Available-Past7649

I am a SAHM of 2 (4&2). Since I stay home with them, there are days that I just want my husband to take over when he gets home from work because I’m so overwhelmed.

Then when the weekends come I wish I could take a day off and do something for me because he golfs every weekend without fail.

Thinking like that makes me feel guilty because he actually needs his days off since he has to wake up early to go to work and provide for us. I’m lucky that my kids don’t wake up early, so I get to stay in bed until they wake around 9am.

Just for some context, he doesn’t have a physically demanding job. He has a desk/computer job, but I know that kind of work is mentally draining.

So I’m wondering if it’s wrong of me to ask him to let me take a day for myself every once in a while?

I made a post about a situation at the park where my 3 year old got elbowed on the side of the head by a much older child. I stated that my child was not hurt but was scared after it happened. Even though my child was not hurt I still said something the child who elbowed my kid and the mother.

Someone in the comments said that my kid just got bumped and was not hurt so I shouldn’t have even said anything.

I said it was not a bump. The elbow made contact with the side of my child’s head to the point that my child’s head went to the other side. I obviously don’t know how hard the hit was but my child is tough.

There response was this:

“I'm sorry but are you saying that it was shear willpower that caused your child to not be hurt? Like a lesser kid would have been brained but your special angel is just so extraordinary they willed themselves to have no injury? No chance the impact was just a bit less severe than you thought?”

Then some else said

“I feel sorry for your child’s teacher”

Before I had my own children I heard people say that their kids are tough and I have never thought it was a bad thing to say. Is it not a thing that’s supposed to be said anymore?

I took my daughter (3) to the park and she was really enjoying the slide and kept wanting to go down. It was a double slide so she was going down one side and there was a boy (maybe 11) that was chasing his friends and kept running up the other. On one of the times she went to slide down there was a little girl sitting at the top who was too scared to come down, so as my daughter sat down on the open slide the boy ran up on the side my daughter was on and elbowed her on the side of the head.

Luckily my daughter was not hurt, but she looked scared. When she came down the slide she asked me to tell the boy not to do that, so I told her I would. When he came back around to run up the slide again I blocked the slide with my arm and asked him not to run up the slide because he hit my daughter in the head. He just stared at me so I asked him where his parents were and he pointed somewhere behind me. I looked back but didn’t see anyone looking our way and when I turned back to the boy he bolted towards the the stairs of the slide.

A little later I see him walk towards a women and I ask her if she’s his mother. She nods and I tell her what happened. I do this at a distance because I don’t want to seem threatening. The boy looked at his mother and said that he didn’t hit my daughter and I said “you probably didn’t realize you did it but I saw”. The mom said “well there were other kids running up too” I said “all I ask is that he not run up when other kids are trying to come down” and she said “makes sense” then looked at her son. I’m not sure what was said between them but at that point I turned to leave since I knew they weren’t going to say anything else to me. Then a minute later I hear him say very loudly as he’s walking away from his mom “that lady is so mean” while crying. I felt bad that I made him cry so I looked at him and said “I’m sorry if I hurt your feelings” and he stomps further away. After that I didn’t see him playing on the playground anymore.

I’ve never had to confront anyone before and I’m feeling guilty that my first time ended up making a kid cry. So am I the A-hole for telling a kid not to run up the slide?