Found husbands secret OnlyFans account
My husband (30M) left his email open on my computer, and when I went to close the tab, I (27F) noticed an email from OnlyFans about a recent login.
This immediately caught my attention because he has always been VERY anti-porn for as long as I’ve known him. He always talked about how it was terrible for men’s mental health. I looked a little further and found a new subscription from February (it is early May mind you). The account name was “John Pork,” which is absolutely something my husband would use. We joke about that meme occasionally, so it felt very specific.
I also found older support chats from a few years ago where he was asking for refunds on multiple occasions, and the way the messages were written sounded like him.
I texted him and asked about it. He immediately started calling me repeatedly, but I didn’t answer at first. When I finally picked up, he was oddly calm and tried to say it must be spam. I told him the email was from the official OnlyFans address. Then he changed his story and said, “Well, I had an account years ago, but I don’t use it anymore… you knew that.”
I definitely did not know that. But at that point, I felt like I had my answer that the account was his.
I told him to sit with it and come back to me when he is ready to be honest.
I don’t know what to do. To me, this feels like cheating, especially because he has been paying for access to specific women’s content. The money aspect really bothers me too, because we split bills 50/50 and he doesn’t often spend money on me unless I ask for something.
I feel hurt, lied to and honestly kind of blindsided. How would you handle this?