Should I have been s stronger?
I'm a man I guess and my fiancee's father did not like me at all and made it known that he did not want me marrying his daughter. He tried his best to sabotage the relationship and ultimately he succeeded. He kept wearing me down and tearing me down. I didn't love sports or hunting. He didn't think I was worthy because I was in graphic design/advertising. I was 28, working a professional job that I hated and wasn't paid all that well. I had a modest house given to me by my mom and grandmother for us to live and about 90k saved up. I didn't drink or use drugs anymore or beat his daughter. I would get angry at external things but she would just throw her arms around me and kiss me and everything bad would melt away. I was trying. I wanted to be the best boyfriend/husband I could be. She acted like she loved me. Others told me she did. Many external factors were ruining things. Especially her horrible parents who I thought were unjustly mean to me. It drove a wedge because they lived 8 hours away and she kept wanting me to go with her to visit them. Was she oblivious/stupid in seeing how they treated me? She knew her father was overbearing from the get go and said he could be a jerk sometimes. That was seriously underplaying it. He was evil and cruel to me. Saying things to her in front of me like "don't marry him" and disparaging the modest house. He was rude to my parents. I stood up to him some. I felt betrayed by her for not making them stop being horrible to me and needlessly putting me in those situations. He had me terrified that he'd make her back out of the wedding. I hated her father and told her so.
Shortly before the wedding, he was in a terrible car accident that left him paralyzed. She unilaterally informed me that she was moving away to take care of him. At first I thought it would just be for a while and I was being a noble boyfriend telling her to go and take care of him. But it was going to be permanently. That sent me into a tailspin. My worst fear was coming true. I started to have a nervous breakdown because I've been through so much stress and torment. Plus I figured I couldn't compete with a father and that condition not wanting us to be married. I wasn't thinking straight but she wanted me to move with her. I got angry because because we had a wife I had my family a house terrible job with benefits and she wanted me to move 8 hours away in with people that were horrible to me or she would break up with me and I'd lose the woman I love. I didn't think it was all that necessary to put so much stress on me at that moment. It wasn't necessary to put a time constraint of me to figure it out before she left. And that was like the next day. Instead of we would talk and maybe I'd come down and visit and see the environment. She put a time limit on me about that about 2 hours to figure out if I was going to go or not. Had a serious nervous breakdown and actually blacked out and then I could never remember what happened. I didn't hear from her for 3 weeks and I called her and she was real cold and rude to me. That phone call was a disaster and that was it. I'm at 3 weeks I was very unwell and upset that losing the love of my life.