After 6 months in…
I’m 61(f), and my guy is 64. We’ve been going strong for 6 months, very nice dates out. Met each other’s family. Wonderful lovemaking. We say the L word, but yet still don’t know him. I realize it takes a long time to really get to know someone, and I believe he’s presenting his best, and I’m doing my best(he says he’s happy)
At this age, there are so many layers to uncover, and sometimes I just feel like I don’t have the energy to work at it-the little nuances and careful tending relationships require. (Not saying I want to break up at all-so please don’t misunderstand me)
I’m grateful we found each other, and he brings out the best in me, yet leaves me exhausted at the end of a long weekend together. I’m glad that we live many miles apart, amd i get my ‘me time’ during the week.
He’s hinted at living together and even marriage, but I’m not there yet. After being divorced for many years, I thought I’d want to get married again, but now I’m not so sure.
So I wonder when will this relationship feel like that old shoe that I can just slip on? I’m not there yet..maybe after a year or two? Are we just harder to get to know or to allow ourselves to be known in later years?