Pregnant with Depressed Partner
Not sure where to post this, so I am sorry if I am in the wrong for posting here, but maybe I can get some advice from others possibly dealing with this or who have dealt with this.
My husband has been dealing with depression for a while now, and has been hesitant to take medication because of how it made him feel with a previous try plus the sexual side effects. His moods are a variety of kinds, and I can never really tell which one he's in. Essentially, we have not so great days with very little happy moments. He gets easily irritated, and just shuts down and goes cold on me. Complains about every little thing, and it just weighs on me so much. We don't have any friends and no family to rely on. We have two other kids, one who just doesn't listen, therefore, causing more frustration. We just found out a few weeks ago that we are pregnant again (cautiously happy), after a loss, and I'm just really trying to stay as stress free as possible, but it's so hard when my husband is one of my stressors. I don't know what to do. He's my absolute best friend, and I want to do whatever I can to help him, but when I ask if there's anything I can do for him, or anything for that matter, he just says I don't know. Whenever I bring up how I'm feeling, like how he's hurt my feelings through his emotionless depression, he always seems to throw it back in my face.
He and I both are seeking help, but in the meantime, I just feel so helpless. I am tired of feeling like I have to put my feelings on the back burner, and manage everyone else's emotions.
So it's the kids, work (he's dealing with a lot from work too), not -so-great living situation with his brother and his brother's wife (who live with us)- it's a lot he's dealing with.
I'm sorry if this post seems irrelevant. I guess I'm just looking to rant or looking for people who can relate, or might have some advice.
***We are staying married and are keeping the baby, so no kind of persuasion for the opposite of those two, please.