Parents and siblings still making decisions for me
I am the youngest. I got married and moved across the country about a year ago and a half ago. I grew up as the scapegoat and my mom the leader of it. My 2 older sisters enjoy it just as much. As strange as it is our family relationship is we are close and we keep everyone included. Like everyone knows everything about one another. I know my parents when they got married they struggled at first. My husband and I are DINKS. At work I have opportunities for time and half and bonuses that I take advantage of so I can travel or buy things I want since I have the time. When I talk with my mom she tells me to wait to have kids and travel like I have been.
I call my mom to check in then she tells me the whole family is going on vacation including my sisters, sisters kids and husbands. So I ask why was I not invited. This is the second year I was left out and I asked last year to please invite me. I asked in February about the plans and about my nieces birthday (which they also didn’t tell me). So my mom’s excuse was first she didn’t say anything because I said I would go to El Salvador. So since they changed the trip to go to South Carolina they assumed I couldn’t go. Then it turned to if she didn’t invite me that I am grown and don’t need to be asking for explanations from my mom of why she did something. My dad ends up reaching telling me they decided to not tell me because I just went on a cruise and took a 5 hour road trip so they decided I need to stop traveling so much so I was not invited. My middle sister is mad at me for saying my feelings are hurt because I’m making it seem like they meant to leave me out. I told them. I do think they just don’t want me there but nothing ever makes sense because they say one thing they do something else. So now I’m missing out on another memory when I have the opportunity to do so now.