u/Dramatic_Flamingo_88

i feel so broken. I’ve just had my combined screening results from NHS. it’s comeback 1:5 for downs and 1:123 for Edward and Pataus. baby has an NT of 3.2. I have CVS booked in for Tuesday but it feels so far away.

the midwife said it should hopefully help us find out ‘what is wrong with the baby’ not ‘if there is something wrong with the baby.

i asked in her professional experience does she think there is something more likely wrong than not and she said yes.

i suppose Im just looking for support from people who have been through something similar. I already have a child with severe disabilities as a result of an unrelated genetic condition.

i feel so broken. I’ve just had my combined screening results from NHS. it’s comeback 1:5 for downs and 1:123 for Edward and Pataus. baby has an NT of 3.2. I have CVS booked in for Tuesday but it feels so far away.

the midwife said it should hopefully help us find out ‘what is wrong with the baby’ not ‘if there is something wrong with the baby.

i asked in her professional experience does she think there is something more likely wrong than not and she said yes.

i suppose Im just looking for support from people who have been through something similar. I already have a child with severe disabilities as a result of an unrelated genetic condition.

Im looking for some advice from anyone who has been through something similar.

for context, I have one son who was diagnosed with a very rare genetic disease in my third trimester. This wasn’t inherited and my current pregnancy isn’t at risk but I still have a lot of trauma from the pregnancy and his health issues since birth. we were offered a TFMR with my son but due to late gestation, I felt unable to go through with it.

i am now 11+5 in my current pregnancy and went for dating scan today. I knew something was wrong straight away because the sonographer asked if they’d picked up any problems in my viability scan and her hand was shaking through the procedure. 

she spent a lot of time trying to get NT measurement which was 3.2mm. She said that although this was in range she thinks back of baby’s neck looks abnormal and could indicate a problem. She has referred me to foetal medicine. I asked her if she’s ever see something like this and it’s turned out ok and she said she couldn’t say as she doesn’t follow up on these things. Naturally I’m spiralling and feel like I’m replaying history. Is my body just not able to produce healthy babies? I love my son more than anything but I don’t have the capacity to parent another child with complex needs.

has anyone been through something like this and how did it turn out?