AITA for making my co-worker cry because I mocked her nose-job?
I (F) am working long-term in Korea and got hired for a company that consisted of only Koreans. There's this one particular co-worker that was really nice to me until I showed her a picture of my bf one day, who's also korean. From that day onward, she lowkey started being a bit snarky towards me.
At first, she would comment on the type of food I would eat like "wow, you're eating all of that? That's a lot of calories", but as time went on the comments got nastier and nastier. There was this one time when she asked me if my great-grandparents were Nazis (I'm german-american), but at the time, I didn't realize she was being passive-aggressive and thought she genuinely was concerned about my health and curious about my family history. I only started to realize the shade when she started commenting on my relationship with my bf, talking about how she didn't like how there were so many white girls dating korean guys nowadays and basically the typical racist ethnic homogeneity is good crap.
At this point, I was just fed up with her and started ignoring her and refusing to look in her general direction. But recently, there was this one incident where she started talking shit about my looks and in a fit of anger I told her that at least I didn't need an obvious and terrible nose-job to look decent. But I said this way too loudly, and basically everyone on the floor heard my comment. Because everyone was staring in our direction, she started tearing up and crying. to be honest, I knew she was insecure about her nose because since it was a secret that she told me before the beef how she regretted the surgery because it didn't turn out the way she hoped, but because I was so angry and she was dissing my looks, I blurted it out.
I told my bf about this and he said that I was in the right, but the general consensus among my other co-workers was that I shouldn't have had said that personal secret out loud and instead talk with her privately.
AITA?