3V4F vs 3F4V
Hi. I’m EII in socionics, sw9 in Enneagram.
The thing is, most of the time I was pretty sure I’m ELVF, however there’s one thing that’s bothering me. I would’ve like to ask for different opinions.
Physics can’t stop itching and that’s annoying as hell. My 1E and 2L are doing very good. As for now, I’m still thinking if I should look to ELVF or stay with my opinion that I’m ELVF. (methods of typing that I used for myself – “classical” AP tests in both English and Russian.)
3F vs 4F.
I was actively trying to convince myself that I’m 4F. I can be lazy, sometimes I don’t have strength so I sleep an hour or two after work, and I’m awkward around things like cooking. I can share things like food or things with the others, occasionally. However… I also felt very stiff and embarrassed about the fact that (as I see it) I’m too sensitive. Like, WHY, this is ANNOYING. I’m too ticklish, I can surrender with pain, but why most people seemingly bother much less about it, and why I’m an idiot who feels too sensitive. I repeatedly called (and I can’t stop myself from thinking so) that some body functions are disgusting, I feel bad just thinking that my perfume may be too overwhelming for others, and god help me if I’ll think I’m sweating and others will notice. I like DIY kits and to do some craft kits, I can do cooking but I’m still very awkward around it. In general, just clumsy, awkward, etc, even if I try to control myself. I’m also a hypochondriac, even though sometimes I know I should take painkillers and go to doctor, but still scared of it, lol. My relationships with food… eh. I can skip a meal, but mostly I’m trying to eat what should be healthy and then get upset when I find myself snacking. I also love exploring all about physical stuff, like perfumes, cooking, unusual recipes, DIY and such things. I tried to get better at makeup, I gathered a lot of knowledge about it (the same with health, food, etc.), but my hands are super shaky and most of the makeup textures feels… weird, not to say off. I had no idea that for most people mascara doesn’t feel “heavy” on their eyes, the same with foundation. I also don’t find myself fashionable, since I’m too insecure to try out new things myself (and the critics that hurt me the most is usually appearance or money related stuff), so my style is pretty casual, even though I’m picky about the clothes I like. Talking about money – I can be quite generous with others, but I’m constantly worried about money, about having the things I want (even though I try not to show it openly.) I like 1F. I also like 2F, but you guys seem sort of scary. Why? Because why someone will WILLINGLY want to help the others with this stuff?? ¿¿¿??? It… feels weird, like I can’t believe that there are people that are not constantly tired up by the physical world. Like, you’re really wasting your resources (I’m meaning time, efforts and etc, not money) on others needs..? Unbelievable.
However I’ve been convincing myself that I’m too lazy to be a 3F, therefore it’s just 3V4F acting up.
3V vs 4V.
I’m not a fan of being pressured, which is… happens in my life a bit more often than I would’ve like. I found out that often I’m agreeing with others too much, almost automatically, which can lead me to going away from some responsibilities (nothing serious, luckily), and I’m starting to “slip away” with any ways with people that want me to make an immediate decision. I prefer to follow others, honestly, I just want to follow someone with more or less the same life views and goals.
Also I can be indecisive if I’m afraid that my actions can hurt the others, and I hate “picking sides” in, say, arguments. I can be a people pleaser or too mellow, being indecisive because I’m afraid of being criticised and failing the others. Ambitions? I can’t say that I don’t have them, it’s just… they’re pretty simple? Like, I would have like to know and help my family to be stabile, I want to have a lot of pets and be able to make them (and therefore myself) happy. I probably want kids in the future – and to have enough money and resources to make them happy, emotionally and physically, and I want to show them that the world can be a beautiful place. I also want to help the others via charity or volunteering, and to have enough for my hobbies and travelling. Ah, also, discussing decisions about something tires me out and makes me uncomfortable. Like, why wasting so much time, I just want someone to point at the direction that will satisfy both sides. Usually I’m pretty chill and friendly, and what I’ve always found pretty weird is that the people tend to opening up when talking to me 1-1. I often sort of act like diplomat or “peace maker” in companies, making the others to calm down (not intentionally at all.)
So, the thing that I’m trying to understand is – I’m not sure about which function is actually a “trouble maker” for me, 3F or 3V. Also, sorry for the mistakes, I’m not a native English speaker. And also thanks for advices and answers.