u/Dry_Rutabaga_7818

The Chinese buffet is one of the most important things to me, I could probably go every day, it is a giant part of my relationship as well as just my day to day life. Fortune cookies are just as important in that regard to me, I keep them every-time and take them somewhat seriously.

I pick a fortune cookie kind of carefully, and hold it in both of my hands close to my head to my intention and then I open it. maybe it’s dumb but it’s enjoyable and a nice tradition

I’ve been with my friend today and we went to Chinese buffet after a party, I’ve been struggling with my relationship and it’s a somewhat complicated situation and was going to leave him tonight* but i decided I couldn’t and told her I wasn’t going to do it. This had been the plan for a few days, I was staying at her house talking about it preparing but then backed out.

I’m ranting to her about how important Chinese buffet is to me before the check comes and when I pick my cookie I’m less careful this time because I don’t want it to be like I’m just taking the best one from the two, and then I quickly did my little hand thing, and then opened it.

“Today it’s up to you to create the peacefulness you long for.”

I can’t understand in anyway how that could be a coincidence, while I was pulling cards in hopes to understand better, I was thinking “I just don’t know how you could explain that” and then the lovers reversed flung out of my deck.

I am perhaps ranting about crazy coincidences and this is why I didn’t go through with it still, maybe the universe is telling me I’m right in what I was thinking, but I’ll never know for sure, better to be safe than sorry.

I’m just feeling so confused, i just turned 18 and am in a not great relationship and the last few weeks have been bad, the last few days especially. Yesterday as a joke while we were watching tv he was going to sit down and I touched his butt and he hit me. Not very hard and he was laughing and then said “you need to get in your place” and he was joking but I kind of just sat there

My mom asked me if me and him are okay and i told her he was evil and that was that and she said “okay well don’t make any irrational decisions, I just want you to make good decisions” and i said “getting hit is not in my future, I will leave” and she said “well if it’s like that then I support you” but then said she just wants me to think about it basically. I was feeling so strongly about knowing I can’t let this be my future but what if I’m wrong. I’m just confused. My best friend and everyone in her family HATES him, she says me getting married to him is her worst fear, but what if I’m being dramatic? I just want to be happy and what if this is what I get? If I leave him he will hate me and I don’t know if I can handle that

My boyfriend and I have been dating for two years almost, and I’m feeling very stuck in our relationship.

We were very happy at the beginning at anyone is, but after about a year I started noticing issues that didn’t sit right with me.

For context my boyfriend is very traditional, I cook and clean and he pays the bills, and at the beginning I was okay with that. Now I’m feeling like I’m not capable of that life, I’m not able to agree with him all the time and listen to him on everything because I’m not like that, I’m not even 100% sure I want kids. But because of me already taking on this housewife label I have finished my last two years of high-school with no effort because I will graduate and he will “take care of me”. I’m worried if I leave him I won’t be able to do it on my own.

I have felt many a times that he doesn’t care for what I have to say or think, and he treats me like I’m dumb a lot. He doesn’t really initiate relationship stuff other than sex, and a lot of times I turn him down because every time he touches me I get this disgusted feeling in my body.

We took a break in December, which when we broke up he sobbed and cried and sent me videos of him crying saying he’ll never be able to love someone again and then we got back together around new years and everything was good for like two months after.

Then issues have started coming back up and all we do is argue, he’s started yelling and calling me names and getting more aggressive, being mad when I don’t want him to touch me because that’s “how he shows love”. I feel like I’m constantly putting up an act for him, but if I leave he will be heart broken, maybe I’m wrong and this is the best I can get. I’m confused.

My boyfriend (17m) and I (18f) have been dating for two years almost, and I’m starting to doubt our relationship. We have a very serious relationship, as any teenager does, and he is absolutely convinced I am his whole future. That I will be his wife and have his kids and listen to him for the rest of my life and I just don’t know if I can do it.

He is very traditional, I cook and clean and he pays the bills type, and over the course of our relationship I have accepted the label of housewife, doing my last two years of high school with no effort because I would graduate and marry him, and now I feel if I leave I won’t be something. He tells me I can’t do it and I am scared he might be right. I have started to drift from the idea of listening to his every word and agreeing with all his ideas, one time he told me “if you listened to me more, we would argue less”, and I don’t even remember what I disagreed with him on. I feel like he never listens to what I have to say and doesn’t take me seriously.

We broke up for a short period of time in December because I had officially felt like I was done with his behavior. I had a multitude of conversations with him about my feelings of feeling like he thinks I’m stupid, him disregarding all my ideas and thoughts, I has gotten tired of saying the same things over and over again. Then when I ended things he had a meltdown and sent me videos of him sobbing, saying he’ll never love anyone like me and never be happy if I leave him. That he would change for me now, but I didn’t believe it.

During that time I had a short “fling” with a coworker (whatever, not my best) and then we got back together around new years, and he has never let this go, saying things like “don’t be a whore” when I go out in public by myself in normal clothes and conditions. After we got back together it was really good but then it all started going down hill again, and now I’m back to feeling stuck.

All we do is argue, we don’t do anything intimate anymore because every-time he touches me I’m filled with the ick, and he hates me for it. He doesn’t call me beautiful, he doesn’t care about things that I care for at all. My birthday was completely ignored by him and I paid for our bowling game and dinner with bday money from my mom. Another big thing is substances, I vape and did long before I met him, he started vaping at the beginning of our relationship and later revealed it was a plot to be able to get my quit later so he could help and do it with me. I don’t want to quit, I never had any plans of it and he has never been okay with it, has caused a lot of fights between us. He also won’t let me post on social media, and he yells too much.

But i don’t want to leave him and him never be okay again, and i dont want to leave and realize this is the best ill ever get, and i also dont want to lose my best friend but i also feel miserable. I dont know how to break up with him

I just don’t know what to do and I’m sorry if this is really all over the place and a bad post.