AITA for refusing to visit my mom anymore
I (30F) have been living with my boyfriend (32 M) for a year.
We have been visiting my family every weekend, only for a couple of months we have been going every other weekend.
All fine and dandy, until my mum has started commenting that I have been gaining weight (she called me a pig with a big back, she also said my brother commented on it). Not just me, she said my boyfriend also gained weight.
This is true, we both gained some, but we are aweare and we are now managing it and as of last week we actually dropped some pouds. Its not that she commented on it, it is the very insensitive way she said it, considering she is not the lean type either.
This weekedn we didn't go to their place... I just dont like the hussle, and it is annoying to get home and have so little time left to prepare for the next week. It stresses me out knowing that I will have to do so much stuff in a fue hours.
I was talking to her today and she said that considering we had 3 days off we shoud have visited them at least for a few hours, and then saying "but, you do whatever you want, I am not going to tell you what to do"... woman, you literally told me what we should have done ffs.
She said that my BF did not eat what she prepared the other time we were there, mind you I already told him she said we were fatsoes (?)... he ate the day before he just didnt want to eat the same thing again, and the food was pretty high in fat (and as ai said, we are trying to lose weight).
She also made a comment about how he dresses... that he doesnt dress nice when he comes to her house (not like my brother... idk why she is compering them). My bf just dressed casually and comfy, when we go somewhere nice he dresses appropriately but in this case we are really going to the boondocks, who cares what he dresses like.
She also has a problem with how my BF treats his mother (they both have a very complicated relationship that is a whole can of worms). LSH is that he was raised by his grandparents - because his parents divorced when he was a few months old.
He is kind of rude to his mom but they are just that kind of people, his mother doesn't really care about him and he doesnt really care about her.
I think she is projecting onto us some shit that literally doesn't have anything to do with her.
I am just so annoyed by this whole situation, I know it sounds childish but it is getting on my nerves, considering I am a pretty sensitive person.
I have decided to "wheen" on my weekend trips how, and start only going for a few hours once every other weekend and then see where it goes from there.