How to build a life?
Little bit of context about me- been year since graduating university, work full time doing food service. I basically have no goals or aspirations to use my degree everyone tells me to start a career or do this and that but I can never find the motivation to break out of my current life. I have a lot of ideas like I want to write but I never do it. I spend most my days off drinking energy drinks and smoking weed. I smoke a lot of weed and it’s my main vice to feeling nothing. It’s definitely bringing my entire quality of life down yet every time I stop I still feel just as unmotivated. It’s something I’ve dealt with chronically, I’ve just never been a doer. It’s not that I can’t “do” things I just don’t know how to get in a situation to do it/make myself do it. At work I do a lot and I like doing it, for the most part. Since it’s food service I get away with a bit of disassociation and getting high. I have friends from college but they all have aspirations and things they want to do post graduation. I lack that.
How do you build a life post graduation with no ideas or goals in your 20? I don’t mean a career but like an actual life where i don’t hate where I live and how I spend my time. Right now my major goal is quitting weed but even after that I’ll have no “direction” it’s why I relapse every few months. The world feels empty. I’m not sure if it’s a mental health thing or if I don’t have the conception down I just can’t feel comfortable here. Any advice is appreciated please not to much judgment or obvious things, I know I live like a sack of shit. it’s in the process.