Closer with God
I, 26 female, have been in a loving relationship for 4.5 years with a 26 male. I have been a believer since I really understood who God was. I feel as though I am not the most conventionally attractive person, as I am on the heavier side. Going through college my goal was to find a man that was kind and loving, with similar beliefs as me - but not necessarily that was a believer. And I found him.
Our relationship has always been an easy one. Never any fights, similar views, similar outlooks. The biggest issue the whole time has been that he is not a believer although his family does believe.
I have recently been having doubts of our relationship.
Of course, him not believing is a big thing, but there are other things too. I feel like we are slowly drifting apart and our relationship feels like we are roommates more than dating. Another big thing is the fact that he hasn’t proposed yet even though I told him I wanted a ring before year 3. I haven’t been the closest with god since we started dating, but recently became acquainted with a believer, and he gave me some good introspection on some things. This has led me to believe that maybe this is God giving me a chance to get out before it is too late.
This newly acquainted 20 year old male and I have really been talking to each other daily, about God, and life. Our past mistakes and our futures.
This boy has absolutely charmed me with his love of Christ, his honesty with his struggles, and in all honesty the compliments he has given me daily.
I have prayed about it, and need to know what I should do here.
This new boy has admitted that he has some sort of feelings, but he doesn’t think he is ready for a relationship, or he hasn’t yet heard from God that he is, but in my mind, us meeting was the way God was telling me to move on from my relationship while simultaneously telling him that God is ready for him to put his trust in God. Regardless, there had to be a ton of circumstance to make us meet in the first place as we met in an online discord server.
I guess what I really need to know is
- Should I end the relationship with my current partner? If I do, will I run out of time to find a good partner to have kids with? Will I be able to find a partner that is attracted to me ?
- Am I reading too deeply into the new person God has me meet? Am I looking with rose covered glasses? He is 6 years younger than me which does worry me a bit.
- Any advice for the future