u/Dumar-

My GF and I have been together for over 8 months, and honestly she's amazing. We connected almost instantaneously, we have some many things in common and we share many thoughts and values, even I look up to her in many aspects.

Everything was going well, until in March something started shifting, basically changing her and becoming less affectionate, distracted, didn't wanna hang out as often as before, less interested in doing things together or in knowing things related to me, etc.

In April, we were having a tough week both of us, in our own individual lives: stressing week at work, issues at our respectives houses, no time for personal activities/hobbies, etc. So, that weekend we decided to hang out but something seemed off, went for a walk on the beach and shocks me with the news that wants to go on separate ways.

Started telling me that she still cares about me, loves me and values me, but that she's having a really hard time keeping up with all the things that are going through her life: the heavy work load, no time for her own things, and confessed me that for a long time, during time lapses, that she's been dealing with a lack of purpose and motivation in her life, that feels like she's in autopilot and nothin seems to give her an objective or purpose in her life. Automatically, I thought on depression, because myself have been diagnosed with and personally understood, comprehended and felt identified with it.

So I told her that if she wanted to because she doesn't see a future in this relationship, nor she doesn't love me anymore or any other reason related to us or me, I'd understand. But that if it's only for the thought that it would lighten the weight she's carrying on herself, I won't accept it, even if it's selfish from my behalf, because I can't let her go through this alone, because I already know how does it feel. Long story short, we kept the relationship on after that conversation.

But now, I'm having a hard time dealing with it. I'm trying to be as thoughtful and helpful as I wanted somebody to be with me when I was going through that, I'm not rushing her, I'm giving her space, and I'm letting her know that I'm here, at any time she needs, for whatever reason, I'm just one call away.

But my mind is playing me tricks, making me think that when she doesn't reply is because she's ignoring me or if she doesn't accept to go out, she doesn't wanna be with me anymore.

This relationship has been teaching so many things not only about relations in general, but about us and about myself, that I'm realizing I have things I need to work on, and yes, actually this week I wanna start going to therapy, but not only for myself, to know how to handle all this and help her too withouth losing myself on the way.

If anybody has any tips on how to handle these situations, how to approach it or on what to focus on, or anything related to this, would be very much appreciated, because I believe this relationship has so much future if we can get through this.