Parents not helping
I just turned 23 and still live with my parents, and the older I get the more I notice their tendencies and the way they affect each other. Especially my mom and dad it’s like they bounce off one another’s energy. My dad definitely influences my mom a lot, but at the same time I can tell my dad still has some awareness and empathy. Like, he can still see how things look from other people’s perspectives. My mom can’t really do that. She’s very “I know everything already” minded.
What’s been getting to me lately is how little they actually help me move forward in life. And I don’t even mean financially. I mean guidance, encouragement, or even small things. If I had a kid in their early 20s, I’d be trying to help them grow and become independent. If I saw a good apartment for rent, a house opportunity, a better job opening, or anything that could help them level up, I’d send it to them immediately.
But with my parents, it almost feels like they don’t want me to advance sometimes. Like they’re comfortable with me staying stuck where I am instead of pushing me toward the next stage of life. I don’t know if anyone else around my age feels this way with their parents, but it’s something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately.
They don’t even wanna give you the help so it’s like you’re stuck. Either way you kinda gotta do it yourself, which is why I think a lot of products of narcissistic parents become independent because what the fuck am I supposed to do but do it for myself, but I’m saying like has anyone found like do they not help or do they?