My boyfriend (26M) and I (24F) in a disagreement over letting a friend crash on the couch for a night
My boyfriend (26M) and I (24F) are in a disagreement, we’ve been together almost two years. So, my lifelong friend and family friend (23M) who I haven’t seen in two years, messaged me 2 days ago asking to crash on my couch for a night (I live alone). Our families are great friends and we chat all the time. We have always been completely platonic, there has been ZERO romantic interest. He lives about a 12 hour drive away and needed a place to stay for one night (after work) before going back home. I asked my boyfriend in person if he was comfortable with that or had any concerns. I thought that was a respectful, truthful, and mature thing to do, instead of not saying anything and allowing him to stay. Anyway, my boyfriend replied “in what world do you think that’s okay?” and went off on me saying it’s crazy I would even ask that and all these other things. I was going to stay at my house; however I told my boyfriend I’ll stay with him while my friend crashed at my house, to ensure everyone is comfortable. That still upset my boyfriend. Yesterday, my boyfriend brought it up again saying he was mad at me and said everything that he said before again. It’s left me feeling like crap, controlled, and not trusted, yet we’ve never had issues. This has really rubbed me the wrong way and has me questioning some things. What would you do in this situation? How would you approach talking to him about how you feel? Am I not seeing it through his eyes and the implications? Or is this an overreaction?