Husband is a gambler
Hi, so I went to seek out some advice and vent. Me and my husband have been married for 6 years, have a daughter of 5 and I am pregnant with our second child.
We’ve been having the gambling problem for I think 2 years. My husband has a psychologist who helped him with his overall behaviour towards me I would say, but the gambling didn’t stop. He knows that he has a problem but he doesn’t want to admit that he needs to get clean from drugs to start his gamble-free journey (he does coke from time to time and that’s when the most gambling happens).
Yesterday things escalated and he said that he wants to divorce to protect me even though he never put us into debt (just once from his friend) and been sending me money that he doesn’t need at the moment with no access from his side. He also let himself write on the list of people who cannot access a casino or play on the Czech websites - which he later was told that he can still play on the foreign ones so that’s what he does.
Last week he won something and said that it’s a wrap, that he “healed” and won’t have the urge to play again. Nevertheless, they found out that he is on the exclusion list (I don’t know the proper English word, sorry) and they cancelled his account so that’s when he played again.
Besides this, he is an amazing father and our marriage is overall happy, I don’t want to leave him. But I don’t really know what to do anymore. I don’t want him to divorce me, now pregnant, as I think he would have zero desire to heal. Besides he takes care of the majority of the bills, the flat we live in is his etc. I have no clue if he would take out a loan and lose it.