I am turning 31 and my amh is 1.43ng/ml… I’m beginning my testing this week. Is my amh a problem? Doctor just mentioned it but didn’t really say if it was good or bad. Not sure what this means for me.
I am going to try and do long story short. I am very happily married. My husband and I have been together for almost 10 years. We are in our early 30s. My in laws are very enabling and have an enabled their daughter who is a drug addict and thought her getting pregnant and having a baby would change her ways. Surprise, surprise it didn’t and she abandoned the child. No idea who the father is.
My in laws were raising the baby and then my father in law passed away. it’s been 6 years since the child was born. my mother in law has relied heavily on us. For everything. Not just child related stuff.
This has made me feel very overwhelmed with my own life. Unsure if we were going to have kids of our own or what our future will look like.
2 years ago things settled down and my mother in law started doing OKAY on her own raising the child. She will forever rely on us for everything but I was able to put up some boundaries to have our own life. My husband and I decided then 2 years ago to start trying for a family of our own but I haven’t been able to get pregnant.
I started my infertility journey and can’t help wonder if I’m making a mistake trying to have a kid of our own. I will always resent in laws for putting burdens on us.
The child my mother in law is raising is a brat and most likely will always be my husband’s and mine responsibility. I do care for the child of course but would love to have a child of my own. Am I making a mistake by trying to have kids of my own? I am not sure what the cause of my infertility is yet. What would other women do? My husband and I have always been deeply in love.
I am here to vent and I’m looking for encouragement. I wear my big girl pants 95% of the time and I am here to vent to other women. I am not
close to much of my family and no contact with my mom. I have close friends but I just need some unbiased input. I tried posting in a TTC group but reddit wouldn’t let me.
I am very happily married to my husband. Never thought I was going to get married, let alone want to have kids but I found my husband and he’s perfect. We’ve been trying to conceive for 2 years and our first fertility appointment is in a couple weeks.
Parallel to our life is my mother in law who has been raising my sister in laws child since birth. I truly do care for his family especially since I am not close to mine, it’s really why I want to have a family of my own. To create my own family.
I love my mother in law but I get complicated waves of emotions and feelings because my mother in law relies very heavily on us and especially my husband for emotional and physical help while raising the niece. I feel it takes away from the reality of our infertility.
Ive chosen to stop updating my mother in law about my ttc to protect our privacy and my own boundaries because she was adding anxiety to my journey with unnecessary comments such as “if you can’t get pregnant you just have to accept it”. After she said that I completely put my wall up.
Im extra sensitive because of my different journey and my mother in law has a lot of support and a huge family that helps her. She does have a village. At the end of the day i feel like i only have my husband and close friends. I’ve communicated all of my feelings and thoughts to my husband and he understands. This past week my mother in law asked my husband to take the niece to the father daughter dance at school and he declined because of work.
But also out of respect of our infertility and he is not her dad. I am hoping I will get pregnant soon with the help of our fertility clinic and my messy emotions will move on and we can be one big happy family.
I am here to vent and I’m looking for encouragement. I wear my big girl pants 95% of the time and I am here to vent to other women. I am not
close to much of my family and no contact with my mom. I have close friends but I just need some unbiased input. I tried posting in a TTC group but reddit wouldn’t let me.
I am very happily married to my husband. Never thought I was going to get married, let alone want to have kids but I found my husband and he’s perfect. We’ve been trying to conceive for 2 years and our first fertility appointment is in a couple weeks.
Parallel to our life is my mother in law who has been raising my sister in laws child since birth. I truly do care for his family especially since I am not close to mine, it’s really why I want to have a family of my own. To create my own family.
I love my mother in law but I get complicated waves of emotions and feelings because my mother in law relies very heavily on us and especially my husband for emotional and physical help while raising the niece. I feel it takes away from the reality of our infertility.
Ive chosen to stop updating my mother in law about my ttc to protect our privacy and my own boundaries because she was adding anxiety to my journey with unnecessary comments such as “if you can’t get pregnant you just have to accept it”. After she said that I completely put my wall up.
Im extra sensitive because of my different journey and my mother in law has a lot of support and a huge family that helps her. She does have a village. At the end of the day i feel like i only have my husband and close friends. I’ve communicated all of my feelings and thoughts to my husband and he understands. This past week my mother in law asked my husband to take the niece to the father daughter dance at school and he declined because of work.
But also out of respect of our infertility and he is not her dad. I am hoping I will get pregnant soon with the help of our fertility clinic and my messy emotions will move on and we can be one big happy family.