u/EasyCurrent8911

I met my boyfriend a few months ago, we instantly clicked and spent everyday together. We had all the same ideas on everything, it felt like I finally found my person. He took me on this snowboarding trip and paid for all of my stuff, and suprised me with my favorite icecream that was IMPOSSIBLE to find, apparently its in nevada. It started off really well, he asked to be exclusive maybe a week after our first date.

Fast forward, he spent the night at my house. I woke up and told him i had this awful dream where he was evil and cheating on me with his coworker. He just kinda laughed and said that was weird she was the most irrelevent person (I only know her name because I saw they sent eachother reels a few days prior) The day he leaves for basic training we are laying in bed and im crying saying ill weite everyday and just talking with him. then I go to make breakfast and he left his phone on the counter, unlocked. He does that all the time and I usually just turn it off, but I thought since hes leaving maybe I should get a peak just to make sure this is worth it. He was texting her, back and forth, calling her gorgeous. I confronted him and told him to get out of my house and he cried and begged for forgivness, he said it was just those messages. I of course messaged the woman on instagram to confirm this story.

He keeps calling me throughout the day before he leaves to the hotel, he says hes going to lunch with his family before he gets there and he would call me right after. The girl responds, they have went on dates, walked around downtown and went to the park. They got “really close” to having sex but she said no, twice. The third time he said it was okay if she didnt want to. But they kissed “a lot”. The only time he would of had to message her is when I made dinner. The night he was out late with her I remember being so worried since he wasnt responding, I was checking facebook groups to make sure he wasnt in a wreck. And worst of all, she told me he was on his way to meet her right then.

So he stayed with her and “explained things” for an hour. The girl was incredibly nice and told me everything. He calls me after and hes crying on the phone saying hes so sorry and he wants a future with me and he just enjoyed the attention and his childhood and blah blah blah.

Now hes almost done with bmt, hes probably sent me about 50 letters making plans for us to do, talking about the future, saying he would give me his passwords and unfollow every girl, post me, visit me whenever possible, marry me. That it was the worst mistake of his life and he would do anything to get my forgivness.

I really loved this man more than anything, when I found out it was like I saw him for the first time. i put so much effort everyday into making him feel as loved as possible, there was no lack of sex or attention from me. Hes the smartest most attractive man ive ever met, and I thought we bonded on such a deep level. But im not sure if i can ever respect him or be in love with him. When I told my sister everything, she told me she didnt beleive in soulmates but we were about as close as anyone could get. I guess in the most important ways we are nothing alike though. I I try and work this out with him? Give up and move on? Can you move past this im so lost on what to do, and if i tried working through this how doi even go about that

Bmt graduation, do I need to be listed as a guest?