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I can’t really use my wheel to move shapes, I can’t really use the keyboard to move shapes, Controller won’t respond so how am i supposed to customize my car?

I’m 28M and my wife is 25F.

This morning, I noticed my wife’s location showed she was at her boss’s house before work. She didn’t tell me she was going there, so it caught me off guard.

For context, she’s in the Army, and there’s a new rule being enforced where they can’t be in uniform off post. Because of that, she usually drops the kids off at daycare and then changes at work before starting her day.

She also had class today in a different building on post, and that building is near her boss’s house. She has had class in this building multiple times before. I used to be in the Army too, and I’ve personally changed at that same building, so I know she could have changed there instead.

Another thing that makes her explanation feel off to me is that since giving birth, she usually has to use the restroom often. But she’s claiming she didn’t know the main building on post had a women’s bathroom. To me, that feels like a reach, especially since she has been there multiple times.

To be fair, she wasn’t there for more than about 10 minutes. I also called her while she was there, and she told me she was at her boss’s house. So she didn’t lie when I asked, but she also didn’t tell me beforehand.

Another part that makes this feel confusing is that this is the same boss she’s usually disgusted by. She has had a lot of negative things to say about him and other women, and she’s told me multiple times that she can’t stand him. He’s also recently divorced, which may not mean anything by itself, but it adds to why the situation feels uncomfortable to me.

Now I can’t help but wonder if she only left because I called. Part of me keeps thinking that if I hadn’t called her while she was there, maybe she would have stayed longer. I know that might be my mind going to the worst-case scenario, but it’s hard not to think about.

When I tried explaining why it bothered me, I told her it felt like she crossed a boundary. She said sorry, but then turned it back on me by saying I was treating her like she had done something wrong or inappropriate. I never said she was sleeping with him. My issue is that I feel like she didn’t respect me enough to tell me she was going to another man’s house to get dressed, especially her boss.

Later, when she got off work, she came home and I didn’t really feel like talking, so I was laying in bed. She tried to take my phone from under my pillow, and I told her no. She said that was weird, but honestly, why would I let her look through my phone when she didn’t even tell me she was changing at her boss’s house?

I’m not trying to accuse her of anything without proof, but I do feel hurt and uncomfortable. It’s not just that she went there. It’s that she went to her boss’s house to get dressed, didn’t mention it beforehand, and then made me feel like I was wrong for being bothered by it.

Am I overthinking this, or is this something I should be concerned about? How would you handle this without it turning into a bigger fight?

TL;DR: My wife (25F) went to her boss’s house before work to get dressed and didn’t tell me (28M) beforehand. She says it was because of Army uniform rules, but she had other places on post where she could have changed. When I said it felt like a crossed boundary, she turned it back on me and made me feel wrong for being upset, even though I never accused her of sleeping with him. Now I feel hurt, uncomfortable, and unsure if I’m overthinking it.

I’ve been (28M) struggling the last couple of years with just interactions with others, I’m married I have 2 Kids and possibly everything i could want in life. I served in the military for 6 years and got out 2 years ago. Since getting out I feel so irritable, I don’t enjoy things. I can’t even tell if i’m having a good time anymore. My main struggle so far is that personally I feel that there is no such thing as good people. I don’t believe anyone does anything out of the kindness of their hearts. I find it hard to feel sympathy, I struggle to find clarity, and just trust in others. I’m trying my best as a human being to be more compassionate, yet I realize how selfish i’ve become with my own peace. I’ve gotten to the point where I can’t even get on social media without seeing someone just being disrespectful and negative. I got into Nascar but a lot of the fans online will drop random acts of racism here and there, not all of them but some. That demoralizes me seeing that, I’ve never really been this way before and could just brush past it. Now I can’t help but feel hatred towards others. I had to delete Threads because that was the most toxic place i’ve put my energy into and realized how toxic it was making me. I just want to have some hope in humanity, I feel as if i’m just in this sinking hole that gets deeper and deeper. I want to be as happy and outgoing as I used to be everyday, I can quite literally feel me losing myself and I hate it. If anyone has any suggestions or can tell me how they’ve coped throughout their life It would really mean a lot.

I’ve been (28M) struggling the last couple of years with just interactions with others, I’m married I have 2 Kids and possibly everything i could want in life. I served in the military for 6 years and got out 2 years ago. Since getting out I feel so irritable, I don’t enjoy things. I can’t even tell if i’m having a good time anymore. My main struggle so far is that personally I feel that there is no such thing as good people. I don’t believe anyone does anything out of the kindness of their hearts. I find it hard to feel sympathy, I struggle to find clarity, and just trust in others. I’m trying my best as a human being to be more compassionate, yet I realize how selfish i’ve become with my own peace. I’ve gotten to the point where I can’t even get on social media without seeing someone just being disrespectful and negative. I got into Nascar but a lot of the fans online will drop random acts of racism here and there, not all of them but some. That demoralizes me seeing that, I’ve never really been this way before and could just brush past it. Now I can’t help but feel hatred towards others. I had to delete Threads because that was the most toxic place i’ve put my energy into and realized how toxic it was making me. I just want to have some hope in humanity, I feel as if i’m just in this sinking hole that gets deeper and deeper. I want to be as happy and outgoing as I used to be everyday, I can quite literally feel me losing myself and I hate it. If anyone has any suggestions or can tell me how they’ve coped throughout their life It would really mean a lot.