Husband Not Happy with Sex Life
My (27F) husband (28M) is constantly mad about how often we have sex since we had a baby. Baby is 4 months old, and we also have a 6 year old. During the 6 weeks after birth, I would do “wifely” duties for him multiple times a week. Now we have sex 2-3 times a week. I feel like this is normal especially given we have two kids. I’m still up with the baby hours a night, work part time, pump, and take our baby to weekly appointments because he has a medical thing— so as you can imagine, I’m tired. I still try to think of my husband’s needs and try my best to initiate multiple times a week but the problem is my husband will only do it in the bed before bed or in the morning. He will not do it in the shower, during naps, later in the day when I can get the kids occupied. So that makes it even harder because the baby or my daughter may wake up before us or my husband will fall asleep before I get the house reset and baby down.
He thinks this is a big enough issue that our marriage “isn’t working” and makes multiple comments about how all I care about is the kids. I keep feeling he will eventually try to find another person— whether it’s cheating or just leaving us for someone with no kids. I know he will go watch explicit things that I’ve asked him multiple times not to when I can’t get the kids occupied or asleep at the right times. This makes it even harder for me. I want to fulfill his needs but I feel like he’s asking a lot during this time of our life. It makes me feel like he resents our children too. Am I right that this is a normal amount of times to have sex in the season of little kids/babies? Any advice on how to help him see I’m trying my best to not ignore him?