u/Echoesfrommymind

As the title says, my gf is a picky eater. I am a foodie to my core. I love to cook, experiment with new recipes, try new foods, travel to other countries and try the dishes they are known for. I am willing to try anything once, if someone is going to go through the trouble to prepare it, it can't be that bad. I've tried plenty of things I do no like, but I tried them.

My GF refuses to even try new foods. She claims to not like things that she has never tried. I used to be that way but I eventually opened my mind to new experiences and stepping out of my comfort zone. I worry that her picky eating is a sign of closed mindedness and refusal to do anything that puts her out of her comfort zone.

Her diet is mostly chicken tenders and fries, protein bars, plain cheeseburgers, sausage and hash browns, or meat and cheese tacos. She has an allergy that limits what she can eat, and I do not fault her for this in any way, that is beyond her control. But her refusal to eat beyond the short list of things that are deemed okay in her mind is starting to bother me. She doesn't eat many vegetables or fruits, a main part of my diet, and I am honestly getting sick of over paying for a plate of fries and bread/meat/cheese.

We've only been dating for a few months, and she promised that she would try some new foods, but I've been met with resistance on any attempt to do so. I'm not pitching anything crazy, I dont expect her to develop a taste for sushi, but she will not deviate from the short list of what she likes.

Cooking is one of my hobbies, and I want to be able to cook for her without worrying if she'd like it. Or even better, cook with her. But she is not interested in cooking since she is not interested in food.

She is so into me, and I'm crazy about her, but thinking long term, I will go crazy if there can be no diversity in eating and cooking or it feels like I am giving her anxiety just by trying to show her a new food by sharing something that interests me.

How do you deal with dating a picky eater? At what point does this become a deal breaker?

In the 2.5 months that we have been dating, my (27M) gf (25F) has been sick probably 3 times. The first time she gave me an upper respiratory infection that lasted 2 weeks and had me the sickest I have been in years. After that, I told her I wasn't upset that she got me sick, but that I didn't want to come and spend time with her like that when she wasn't feeling well. I'll happily bring her soup or medicine or anything particular she might want to feel better, I just do not want to get sick myself.

When she was sick again, she downplayed it as allergies and that she's fine and doesn't have a fever and isn't actually that sick because she wants to see me. While I'm always delighted to know she wants to spend time with me, I do not want to get sick and she wants to cuddle and even wanted to kiss me in between coughing or blowing her nose. I got sick again.

After that time, I felt like she was just being inherently selfish. Wanting to see me and missing me bc I had been traveling for work is understandable, but I am upset that she pretty much rushed me into spending time with her when I would've wanted to wait until we were both feeling well so I didn't have to be sick again simply because she wanted me to come and lay around with her bc she was lonely while sick. I don't want her to feel lonely but I also do not feel I should be the one to sacrifice my health for her comfort.

Like I said before, I am happy to take care of her how I can from a distance, but I would never downplay being sick so she would come over.

I am curious about how other users approach being there for a partner who is sick?

At the end of July I am planning a roadtrip through Banff on my way to Shmabhala Festival at Salmo River Ranch. On the way there I am looking for recommendations of places to stop for scenic overlooks along my route down and around through Glacier National Park going south from Revelstoke to Castlegar.

On my way back I’m hoping to do a day hike or two if they’re not too long. I have a one night hotel lined up in Golden so I am planning to head into Banff and see Peyto lake, but would love to hear some ideas on how to best spend my day!

I’m meeting up with my dad and we’re staying in Banff and planning to take 4-5 days to fish and hike in the area. We’ve looked at fishing tours on the Minnewanka and the Bow River, but if there are any great spots or any guides that you’d recommend, especially ones that I wouldn’t find on google, I’d so so so appreciate the info, this is what im most looking for from this post.

Thank you for any info and thoughts! I’m ecstatic for this trip.