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How do I tell my son his grandpa isn't going to be part of his life now?

Long story short it was discovered that my soon to be ex stepfather was cheating and is kicking us out in favor of his new mistress. He's been downright cruel to both me and my mother. I don't want him in our lives any longer. If he can treat us like this after all of these years, how can I know he won't do the same to my son later?

However I don't know how, or even what, to tell my son. He's only 11. He understands the concept of cheating, but I'm not sure if I should tell him this. Or what I should tell him. I'm really at a loss, deeply heartbroken that my second dad has been treating me us like this, and so stressed out I haven't slept in a week. So I'm not thinking clearly.

Sorry for rambling. I appreciate any advice. Thank you so much.

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u/EclecticMermaid — 6 days ago
▲ 6 r/catquestions

TNR on a stray?

I've never had to TNR before, and I don't know the process, or even what to do afterwards. The only cats I've ever adopted have already been neutered/spayed, so I'm out of my depth here.

Our local shelters are full thanks to kitten season, he's much too aggressive with other cats (likely due to being unsnipped) and I no longer have a safe place to put him away from my current cat. I even tried animal control which is NOT my first choice, and even they are packed full.

If I get him neutered, what would the recovery for this look like, if I can't keep him safe inside until the incision heals? Would I have to just forego the neuter and hope someone else can catch him and get him in? I really want to get him fixed as we're already so overpopulated but if I'm not able to completely care for him, I feel guilty just turning him loose after.

Any advice would be welcome. I want to do what's best, but I'm really just at a loss now.

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u/EclecticMermaid — 18 days ago
▲ 21 r/CATHELP

Advice on body language and behavior for my dear Mr. Boots

First off, I apologize for the shaky camera, I was trying to keep him in view and give pets, which I should've waited on in hindsight.

Mr. Boots is a stray I've been feeding for the last few months. A couple days ago was the first time he approached me, and he immediately rubbed against me and screamed like this for pets and attention.

Yesterday, however, he suddenly bit me while I was petting him. I don't know if I maybe found a sore spot, or if I missed a tell, but obviously, I want to be a bit more careful with my approach now. The bite wasn't bad, it didn't even break skin, and honestly he looked kind of shocked it happened.

Anyway, I came out today for feeding time and as I (slowly) approached the food bowl so I could fill it, he suddenly hissed at me. Unfortunately I wasn't able to get that part on video.

The parts I did get on video were AFTER I got the food out for him, he came back over to me for pets an attention. However the way his tail wags so aggressively around 0:06, I was thrown off because that's not a normal "happy cat" wag as far as I know.

After he took off to the food bowl I left him be, I don't want to disturb him around food since I'm not sure if he resource guards, and I don't wanna get bit again.

Location: US, Midwest

Age: unknown

Gender: intact male

I'm open to trapping him to get him fixed, but I only just discovered a couple days ago when he approached that he had some massive trouble puffs on him, and all of our shelters/low cost clinics are booked up thanks to kitten season.

u/EclecticMermaid — 20 days ago