u/Economy-Couple4866

Hey guys, I’m (35m) really having a hard time struggling right now and I feel little bit embarrassed to come on here, but if anyone could give me some advice or some insight, I would appreciate that so SO much. I have struggled with relationship, OCD retroactive, jealousy and various other kinds of insecurities in my relationship. I’m often fearful that my partner (28f) is cheating on me or lying to me about something when really there’s no evidence to support this. they are so sweet, loving and caring….reassuring. I really have no reason to think this.

They’re currently traveling on a trip overseas with a group of friends and I’m looking after their place while they’re gone. It’s taking every fiber in my being to not snoop to try and find evidence of something, and to keep my mind from spiraling about if they’re cheating on me or didn’t invite me on this trip because they actually wanted to mess around. I realize these are most likely deep seated fears and insecurities from being cheated on in the past and other past traumas. Just feeling pretty alone in this and don’t want to burden my partner with how I’m feeling, seek reassurance etc. I sincerely want them to enjoy their trip and not worry about me acting crazy.

Has anyone here been in a similar situation? How do you deal with these things when they come up?

Hey guys, I’m (35m) really having a hard time struggling right now and I feel little bit embarrassed to come on here, but if anyone could give me some advice or some insight, I would appreciate that so SO much. I have struggled with relationship, OCD retroactive, jealousy and various other kinds of insecurities in my relationship. I’m often fearful that my partner (28f) is cheating on me or lying to me about something when really there’s no evidence to support this. they are so sweet, loving and caring….reassuring. I really have no reason to think this.

They’re currently traveling on a trip overseas with a group of friends and I’m looking after their place while they’re gone. It’s taking every fiber in my being to not snoop to try and find evidence of something, and to keep my mind from spiraling about if they’re cheating on me or didn’t invite me on this trip because they actually wanted to mess around. I realize these are most likely deep seated fears and insecurities from being cheated on in the past and other past traumas. Just feeling pretty alone in this and don’t want to burden my partner with how I’m feeling, seek reassurance etc. I sincerely want them to enjoy their trip and not worry about me acting crazy.

Has anyone here been in a similar situation? How do you deal with these things when they come up?

Hey everyone,
I’m in need of some real guidance and thought I’d ask this community. I’ve been a bit of a mess in my current relationship. I am a 35(M) they are 30(F). We just hit our 1 year mark together and I’m just riddled with crippling fears/worries about being cheated on, deceived, not being good enough or attractive enough. It’s led me to a lot of rumination about their previous partners, I’ve struggled with retroactive jealousy and have OCD tendencies (all mental). I find myself constantly monitoring their social media, seeing who likes their posts. I’m always wondering if they’re talking to someone on IG or crushing out on someone on social media. Comparing me to other attractive people. It’s honestly so so embarrassing! It consumes me from the moment I wake up to the time I fall asleep. And when I don’t see them for a couple of days, I assume the absolute worst and I start processing potential heartbreak before it’s even happened.

My jealousy and insecurity is clearly unattractive and I just don’t feel like myself. They’re about to go on a trip for a week overseas and I’m sick with worry that they’re going to cheat. They’re incredibly loving, sweet, loyal as far as I know and there’s no real reason for me to think this. The stress of it is becoming unbearable and I can’t figure what the problem is exactly. I assume it’s trauma from being cheated on but I thought I had healed from that. When we first started seeing each other, they were still dating other guys to get a lay of the land and it wasn’t an issue. But now I know too much about them and I worry my gf found them more attractive than me, or desire qualities they had that I lack. which is absurd because they ultimately chose me.

I’m about to begin Zoloft for the first time, which I’m very nervous about. But I really want to get a grip on this before it damages my relationship any further. I can’t keep putting my partner through the endless questioning of their trust and constant reassurance seeking. I don’t feel present and I’m just not showing up as the partner I know I can be. I want to be well, happy, healthy and free from this. It’s wearing her down, no surprises there.

Could anyone share their thoughts? I know we here are trying to navigate our own way through this. I wish you all peace. Thank you for reading this.

Hey everyone,
I’m in need of some real guidance and thought I’d ask this community. I’ve been a bit of a mess in my current relationship. I am a 35(M) they are 30(F). We just hit our 1 year mark together and I’m just riddled with crippling fears/worries about being cheated on, deceived, not being good enough or attractive enough. It’s led me to a lot of rumination about their previous partners, I’ve struggled with retroactive jealousy and have OCD tendencies (all mental). I find myself constantly monitoring their social media, seeing who likes their posts. I’m always wondering if they’re talking to someone on IG or crushing out on someone on social media. Comparing me to other attractive people. It’s honestly so so embarrassing! It consumes me from the moment I wake up to the time I fall asleep. And when I don’t see them for a couple of days, I assume the absolute worst and I start processing potential heartbreak before it’s even happened.

My jealousy and insecurity is clearly unattractive and I just don’t feel like myself. They’re about to go on a trip for a week overseas and I’m sick with worry that they’re going to cheat. They’re incredibly loving, sweet, loyal as far as I know and there’s no real reason for me to think this. The stress of it is becoming unbearable and I can’t figure what the problem is exactly. I assume it’s trauma from being cheated on but I thought I had healed from that. When we first started seeing each other, they were still dating other guys to get a lay of the land and it wasn’t an issue. But now I know too much about them and I worry my gf found them more attractive than me, or desire qualities they had that I lack. which is absurd because they ultimately chose me.

I’m about to begin Zoloft for the first time, which I’m very nervous about. But I really want to get a grip on this before it damages my relationship any further. I can’t keep putting my partner through the endless questioning of their trust and constant reassurance seeking. I don’t feel present and I’m just not showing up as the partner I know I can be. I want to be well, happy, healthy and free from this. It’s wearing her down, no surprises there.

Could anyone share their thoughts? I know we here are trying to navigate our own way through this. I wish you all peace. Thank you for reading this.