Dating in London in your 20s
F25
Dating is consuming my soul.
Dating in London is honestly shit and I feel like I can’t do it anymore. Maybe it’s just me, but Clapham and Putney seem so empty lately, I feel like everyone is on holiday for the shit weather.
I’m also starting to wonder if men are becoming afraid of making eye contact because it’s really affecting my confidence. I’d say I’m pretty good-looking, I take care of myself, and I go to the gym almost every day, but it still feels incredibly difficult to meet someone in person. I wish people would approach more.
I hate dating apps, so that’s not really an option for me.
I’m currently dating a guy who has literally told me he doesn’t want a relationship, that he doesn’t know what he wants, and that he isn’t even sure he’ll stay in London long term. I’ve bought a flat here, so I’m in a completely different place in life. The only reason I’m still talking to him is because I feel lonely and I’d love to go on holiday with a guy this summer. Now he’s barely replying anyway.
I think what has affected me the most recently is moving into my new place. I did the entire move by myself and built my bed by myself ( second time I did it). I was seeing a guy at the time and he didn’t even offer to help. I even offered to buy him pizza if he came over and helped me put the bed together, but he still didn’t.
I ended up sleeping on the sofa for a few days because I was completely exhausted and didn’t have the energy to finish everything. I know I’m independent and capable, but moments like that make me realise how lonely it can feel doing everything alone. I think that experience has affected me a lot because reminds me how lonely I’m.
I’ve recently switched gyms and started going to Third Space, hoping a change of environment might help, but right now I just feel exhausted, lonely, and fed up with dating in London.
Has anyone else felt like this? Any advice?