AITAH for not letting a guy who previously helped us move crash at our place?
i'm (29F) the caretaker of my dad (60M) after he got in a car accident some years back. some important context is that the car accident caused a traumatic brain injury and ever since my dad's judgement is bad and he has difficulty emotionally regulating. he lives with me. i'm the sole bread winner. we're working on getting him disability, but if you're from the US you likely know how much of a pain in the butt that is.
anyway, when we were moving we had a new mutual friend help us. we had met him some months back after moving to a new area. our lease was up, our LL was selling, and we paid this friend (lets call him matt) to help us move some heavy furniture.
some months later, this matt guy just really pissed me off. we were talking and he dissed my work (not directly, but was talking shit about shelters when i'm literally a case manager at a DV victim shelter), hit on my sister, she rejected him and then he hit on me. i rejected him because i'm not straight. then hit on my sister again and started to date her (my sister is 21F and we're no contact. matt is 36. i find it fucking weird). i also found out a slew of other things: he had been arrested for DV before, the last job he had he was fired from after the police came to question him about something and he assaulted them with injury. overall, i quickly found out this guy is not a good guy.
i've told my dad i don't want matt visiting. i don't trust matt. i do not like matt. my dad insists matt is just fine. he won't see it from my POV. now, matt is facing homelessness. he was living with a family member who is moving, and his other family members in this area won't take him in (again, another red flag imo based on his history).
my dad thinks we should let matt sleep on our couch. matt was making all these promises about just staying until he can get back on his feet. matt hasn't had a job in over a year. it's not like my dad gets SSI yet, so it would be 100% on me to support matt financially? no. fuck that. i don't want to be another man's sugar mama or some shit. i already take care of a TON of people. my dad. people/clients at my work. supporting my co-workers and organization (since it is an emotionally draining job and i want to help our team be on our A game).
my dad and i got in a fight over this. he said i'm a being a b-word. he said matt helped us out so we should help him. i tried to tell my dad the time 'matt helped us out' it was a paid moving gig. it wasn't like he did it out of the kindness of his heart and that we owe him for 2 hours of helping us move.
AITAH? matt is now posting on facebook for our city asking for a place to stay for free in exchange for house/yard work, with no luck and my dad says i'm dooming this man (that we've known only like a year atp) to homelessness.