u/Educational_Chef8733

I’m not sure if this has been asked before, or if this will be interpreted as a dumb question but I’ve lately been reading this subreddit whenever I feel the urge to check my ex’s social media.

She broke up with me 7–8 months ago, completely blindsided me as you can probably imagine.

Lately I’ve been severely limiting my screen time on social media apps that she’s on, primarily because it was triggering my anxiety to see relationship content while doomscrolling, see activity from our shared friends, or to be freely able to see her profile after she made all of her accounts public months after we broke up.

What kept me distant and peaceful for like 3–4 months was that I unfollowed her after she wanted to remain only friends (and even then she rarely wanted to speak). Her accounts were private during and before the relationship so it was a relief that I wasn’t able to see her activity even if I tried.

Then randomly everything was public after a couple months of no contact. Her having public accounts is something that was never true for her before (we’ve known each other for years but we were only in a relationship for 4 months.)

Whether or not she did this for me to see what she’s doing is all just speculation, but she reposts stuff about missing the relationship and regretting breaking up which I do not for a single second believe because she has made zero effort to reach out to me.

In the past 2 weeks I’ve been totally abstinent from TikTok and Instagram and I worry that I’ve replaced indulging with her reposts and posts to seeing posts on this sub and ruminating on the relationship here (albeit in a healthier manner I guess I could argue, but still).

I just really want to be done with this whole thing, I don’t want it to matter.