Blended home and rules
So myself and my partner both have a daughter each (mine is 7 and his is 10), we all moved in together about 6 months ago after buying a house (been together 5 years now).
My daughter lives with us full time, his daughter lives with us 50% and other 50% with her mum.
Both girls have been brought up with different expectations, rules and boundaries and not sure how to navigate combining them so we have the same expectations, rules and boundaries for both girls (we are also expecting a baby so this needs doing for the future).
It’s basic stuff such as table manners, helping round the house, can and can’t do in the house etc.
How do we navigate this? Also, partners daughters upbringing with her mum lacks any responsibility, respect and is very much allowed to do what she wants/ say what she wants with no standards which is starting to come into this house which is resulting in my daughter copying.
I’ve tried to be relaxed and have some lenience with it but my daughter is becoming a nightmare where she is copying how the eldest is behaving and becoming quite sneaking and rude and feel like the hard work I put into bringing her up, is all being undone.
I’d love to have a unified home without different rules for each child but have no idea how to handle it.