How to ask the dreaded "what are we" question
I've been seeing someone for around 4 months now, and things have been going very well. I've met their fiance, I've spent time with with both alone and with friends. But lately I've been a little confused about what kind of relationship they're looking for from me.
When we first started talking we both agreed that we were mostly looking for a relationship that was closer to friends with benefits, but since then they've been sending me daily good morning texts and saying things like they're lucky to have me - things that are more romantic than I would expect from a FWB situation.
I think they're really cool and if they are looking for something more romantic/committed then I would absolutely be interested in that, but on the other hand if they would like to keep this just friends then I am okay with that too. I feel more anxious about the uncertainty.
BUT I feel like 4 months is very early on for the "what are we" conversation, and every way I've come up with to start that conversation leans towards asking them for a romantic relationship.
How do I word it more as a vibe check with no wrong answers, rather than as a declaration of love?