My fiancé has cold feet and wants to postpone our wedding by a year, 6 weeks before the ceremony
I (26F) have been with my fiancé (28M) for almost 10 years. We’ve been engaged for about 4 years and actively planning our wedding for the last 2. The wedding is in 6 weeks.
A few days ago, he told me he wants to postpone it by a year. He says he loves me, wants to be with me, and still sees marriage in our future, but recently realized he had been moving toward marriage somewhat on “autopilot” and doesn’t feel ready to make the commitment until he better understands his own needs and fears.
What makes this hard is that I don’t think this is about a lack of love. I believe he’s being honest and genuinely struggling with something. At the same time, I’m having a hard time accepting another year of uncertainty after 10 years together. My fear isn’t the postponed wedding itself, it’s that a year from now we could be having the same conversation, and that I will feel like I’m not enough and have to constantly prove myself to him.
I feel torn between wanting to be supportive and feeling like I’ve reached a point where I need certainty about our future. Am I being unfair for feeling that way? Has anyone been through something similar, and how did it turn out?