Break-Threats and Ultimatus? LDR. 26M 27F
Hey guys, long story short, we are since 3 years in a long distance relationship. Usually we were able to meet every month once or twice. The last time we met was 5 Months ago due some geopolitcal tensions
Well today I needed to skip work because I felt not right. I told it to my gf and she answered if I will come tomorrorw to meet her. My heart dropped down and I was confused. She wrote me the wrong month. I was like shit, but i need to work tomorrow. I was upset that I skipped work today instead of tomorrow. Then she straight gave me accusations that Im not coming.
I was like that I want to meet but that I need to go to work tomorrow most likely.
Then she crashed out against me and said that she will break-up with me and that she is on her limit. If Im not coming she doesnt want to do it anymore.
I said to her that I wont come to her just because I will think she wont break up with me. Feeling like a dog. I asked her if that should be the reasoning to come to her? She answered I shall do as I wish. She was crying and saying that she only do it for me and what I should expect.
The rest was then us was fighting for hours me wanting that she take that break up threat back. While she ccusuing me of not giving the right answer as a man should do: " I solve it dont worry". Or that put my pride first instead of the relationship. Due the fact that ultimatums are a red line for me, I say it. She puts her therapist even against me. Eventually she took it back after I needed to eloabrate why I want it taken back because that it hurt me too.
Now I told her Im coming tomorrow. Need to find a way what but wont be big problem.
But man, I have nasty aftertaste now and my gut says I should leave it. We had similiar fights with that scheme. Maybe Im too dry for her even Im not sure.