AITA Brother called me petty
My older brother asked my wife and I if we could babysit their kids one night next week. We don’t own a car so I asked if they’d be okay covering our Uber to and from their home. He called me petty for that “considering all he’s done for our kid.”
Some context: my brother has far more money than us and pretty much all family get togethers are at his house because we just don’t have the space.
He brought up how much they do for our son. For example, they have taken him for two different weekend sleepovers in the last two years so my wife and I can get away - both times we took them out for dinner as a thank you.
His kids are older and he has handed us down a lot of clothing and kid stuff as his kids grew out of it. We have never asked for any of it and they constantly have stuff they want to get rid of to get out of their house so they tell us to take it. We have been very appreciative of this, but also felt that it has come at a cost in that nothing is free with him. There’s always an accounting of gestures that we can never match.
When we go to their house for dinner we are asked to split the cost of the food that is ordered in. We bring food over all the time and never ask for money in return.
He said he asked his wife and she agrees with him while my wife agrees with me that asking to cover the Ubers is not out of line. My wife and I feel like we are consistently felt to be in debt and there’s always some kind of accounting going on.
Am I the asshole?