Help?
Idk if this is allowed mainly because I literally found this subreddit today and the rules didn't really say anything about just asking questions.
Anyways, I'm 16 (so I hope that's not a problem, if it is, sorry) and I'm autistic so I have a lot going on with figuring myself out. Right now I'm mainly figuring out my gender identity and who I'm attracted to, so this stuff (I could think of a nicer/gentler way to put it, I don't want to be offensive) is really that big compared to my gender identity (I think I'm mtf if that says anything/helps anyone give me some answers).
I know for sure that I like yandere girls, idk about yandere boys (maybe if they're fem or ftm), and it's not a fetish or anything. I actually don't like that I like yandere, because I think I'm yandere (IDK if this counts so I'd like to know if this counts as being yandere) Because even just imagining someone being attracted to me, let alone obsessed, it makes my head feel like it's spinning and I feel tingly all over and I just think about it more and you could imagine how that can just kinda create a feedback loop.
Anyways, I got a little off track, but one thing I would really appreciate is how to tell the difference between a relationship with 2 yandere people (for now I'm just gonna assume the above would count as me being yandere) and me just being obsessed with someone that's abusive. I'm just worried that being autistic in a way that can make me extremely oblivious and being yandere could end up with me being put in a bad place.
I might add more later, but any answer would be very much appreciated.
Quick little edit: I'm not out to my parents as trans so this might just be my subconscious imagining things to put that off.
Edit: Idk how many people here are definitely yandere and definitely autistic but if anyone is I'd love to know if there's a difference in autistic obsession and yandere obsession, because I've heard of some other autistic people being really interested in someone but it was just an temporary obsession instead of a full on yandere obsession. (Also I feel like the way I'm wording this could probably be put in a nicer way or maybe I'm just overthinking how my tone might come off)