(I'm a 18 yrs male and my best friend is 19 yrs old male) I met my best friend in grade 11 and we clicked instantly. We’d finish each other’s sentences, laugh at the same things, and just got each other. It felt like finding my twin.
High school ended in June, and at first we still talked. But over the summer he started replying less and less. I’d text asking to hang out and he’d say he was busy which I get it, then eventually just stopped responding. There was about an eight-month stretch of almost total silence I'm not sure if this is just a separation phase or something else.
During those 8 months I kept replaying everything, wondering what I did wrong. Then I remembered last winter break in high school I’d call him almost every day. We’d watch stuff and talk for like two hours, and I thought we were both having fun and I still think this was the problem. Was that too much? Did I come off as annoying or clingy?
Around the beginning of 2026 I finally stopped texting him. Now I only reach out once a month or so. In March we actually played a game together and for a little while it felt like the old us again… but I’m not sure if that was just in my head. Whenever I see him online in games we play I get hesitant on messaging him because I already know he'll either not respond or turn me down. I have this feeling like maybe I should just ignore him completely and move on… but I can’t bring myself to do it. I don’t think he’s a bad person at all, everyone loves him, and honestly I still do too. I just miss my best friend and I’m trying to figure out if I messed things up somehow.
I would like to know your thoughts on it.