u/EmbarrassedAnt1441

I wasn’t sure until now… you can see the fry so clearly!! This is so cool. Proud moment 🍇

My current roommate and I have been living together since August. That’s about 9 months so far. Not to mention, we were best friends throughout high school, took a break my first year of college, but then continued being good friends after. Throughout high school, I think she was kind of used to having me as a sidekick or something to push around (It feels that way.)

For context, we’re both pretty low-key roommates. I try to pick and choose what I talk to her about because I’ve been in roommate-ships where they nitpick everything, it’s toxic and annoying. So I’m trying not to be that way.

But she took her trash out and left it sitting in our apartment near our entry door for almost a whole day now. Mind you, this isn’t the first time she’s done it (& it was days long last time).

Anytime she talks to me about something that bugs her, I always listen to her and move differently to be respectful. I cannot say that she’s done the same for me. She gets defensive and makes excuses for herself. Every chance she gets. She cannot take accountability and takes feedback as an attack.

Mind you, she’s gotten after me about leaving “crummies“ on the counter and has left piles of coffee grounds on our counter almost every day the last two weeks now. She’s an early riser, so she goes to bed at 8pm. She reminds my boyfriend & I to be “as quiet as a mouse” when the sun is literally up & it is 8pm at night. It’s annoying, but we do it to be respectful and appease her. She has never done the same for me & actually slams the door when she comes home (something she gets annoyed abt when she’s napping but gives 0 regard to the fact that I might be). She also gets annoyed when we’re in the kitchen making something at the same time (and she’s using my dishes bc I have literally furnished the entire place bc she refused to) because her last roommate wasn’t.

Am I overreacting by being very annoyed with her right now? A conversation will be unproductive with her in person because she shuts down and gets defensive and will try not to hear anything you have to say. Only a few more months of this but hoping we can salvage our friendship if sh!t goes south before then.