AITA for asking my friend to pick up ice cream?
Last night I (22F) was at my friend Amber's (25F) house for her birthday. My friend Trina (22F) went to the store to get ice cream. Since she was already going, I asked if she could grab some cookie dough too so we could make cookies and ice cream.
When she got back, she had the cookie dough, a big container of mint ice cream for everyone, and a small container of coffee ice cream for herself. I don't like mint, so I asked if I could use some of her coffee ice cream on my cookies and she said no. Fair enough.
Connor (21M) was a couple hours late so I asked if he could grab me some ice cream on his way. Another friend also asked for vanilla ice cream. Connor jokingly said no at first, but then called me from Walmart and asked what flavor I wanted.
While I was on the phone with him, Amber and Trina asked to talk to him too. Amber asked him if he "really wanted to be getting me ice cream" and then walked outside to continue the conversation.
I didn't think much of it at the time.
When Connor got there Amber immediately said the container in the bag wasn't mine. It turned out Connor had bought the vanilla ice cream but not mine.
I was confused. If Connor had said no from the start, that would've been completely fine. But he was already at Walmart, already in the ice cream aisle, and bought ice cream for someone else. Logistically it made absolutely no sense to me why mine specifically wasn't purchased.
Amber then told me if I wanted ice cream I could go myself and get it.
I'm usually a very bubbly person. When I'm upset, I get quiet. We were doing a Heated Rivalry watch party, I suggested it and the plan was basically to take a shot every time the main characters kissed.
After the thing happened, I got pretty quiet. I wasn't throwing a fit, I just wasn't nearly as excited anymore because I was annoyed. When people talked to me, I responded normally. I also politely declined drinking because I know when I drink my emotions get amplified, and I didn't want to end up getting more upset over what felt like a stupid situation.
At one point Amber cornered me in a closet and asked if I was okay. I told her I was fine because it felt silly to make a big discussion out of ice cream, and I figured I'd get over it.
The next day I talked to Trina about it. She told me Amber had told Connor not to get me ice cream because apparently I'm always asking people for things and that she agreed with Amber. Examples would be asking someone to grab me a drink if they're already getting up, asking someone to grab something from my car, or asking a friend who's heading to my house to pick something up from a store.
I can understand how that could be annoying. What bothers me is that instead of talking to me about it, they apparently decided to make a point.
Also Connor and I secretly hook up sometimes in a FWB situation so it made me angrier that he didn't get the ice cream.
The whole thing felt weirdly targeted and passive-aggressive. AITA?
Edit: To answer some questions, I do pay back my friends for things, or if I forget, when we're out I do the whole "oh I forgot to cashapp you, I'll get this" no one ever has to chase me for money. and I do favors when they ask as well. I ask for favors a lot more though, I can be lazy sometimes. If that was the problem, I wish they would have communicated that with me.