u/Epic_Faboy

Before anything I'm sorry for the English, not my first language

Hi guys, so me and my gf have been dating for 3 months (almost 4) and ultimately I've started to lose the interest in a pretty strange way. Me and her always have what we call our late night tal were we talk yk romantically, but something that really turns me down is sending romantic texts to get ignored or she would start talking random things. We alr talked about like in those moments we not do that bc one time after I sent 2 long texts saying how I loved her and how great she mades me feel I got an audio of her crying bc she found out her celebrity crush started dating... Ik this is something small but it really got me losing interest aswell as our vision of boundaries and as time passes I see that we dont love in the same way (which is totally normal) but she can't bring herself to love me in another ways (which is totaly normal too)

I'm sorry for making it long but in resume I've been losing interest for mismatching of love language and not being able to love the same way and our ways of seeing a relationship too seems different, idk what to do bc I really love her but Im starting to not be capable of being myself to listen to her sometimes like we live fr different lifes like I'm totally against alcohol and stuff and I knew she drinks, and now it's getting worse, idk, I'm just lost

TL;dr: losing interest on small acts

So my gf were telling me (ts all happened a long time ago [ts will matter further]) about one time she went out with friends and her friends (which all date too) were saying how a guy they found out were so hot and how they wanted to be with him. So she were saying to me how the guy even wasn't that hot and they were tripping.

That's were it gets me. I got kinda jealous and yk were fr just a bit and asked her why were she seeing and even rating another guy's bodies. She replied "oh I didn't see him". What?. So what was a bit jealous just got me concerned bc she obviously lied (I even proved that in the audio she said "I saw the guy") while we were arguing I didn't remember the audio, I just knew she said she saw it. So what were supposed to be a bit jealous after she mentioning a guy turned into pure concern, bc she started changing the whole story for some reason. Every time she would say a different story and that's what were concerning me like just a "oh I was curious* I would be fine but why starting to lie about it?? Then I remembered about the audios and showed her how what she were saying didn't have any sense (one time she would say she saw only 1 post, then it was only 2 highlights, then she saw nothing. She even changed about what were the photos too)

So I'm resume it got into a big argument and she said she started liking bc she got nervous etc we got fine.

That's were the question goes, is it cheating? Like as I said it were a long time ago but still sometimes when I remember it I don't feel that I should trust her at 100% yk and even later she had a guy she had a crush on (rally strong crush on him) and he would periodically flirt with her (she asked if i were comfortable with it and at the time I didn't care), and later I asked about, she were really reluctant about it....