Is this an acceptable conversation between my mom (45F) and I (20F)
Hi there Reddit, this is a throwaway account due to the person this is about potentially seeing it.
CONTEXT: Ever since I moved out of my mom’s house, our relationship has been very rocky, she went on a hour or so long rant about how nobody cared about her because I apparently didn’t give her enough sympathy when her cat died and I’ve been vented to by her since I was about 15 or 16 about her life problems, which usually ends up with her sobbing about it, this also ends up happening whenever I try to talk to her about my personal stuff (it ends up turning into about her)
So about 1-2 hours ago, my mom messages me that she feels a disconnect from everyone in her personal life and she doesn’t know why, so I tried to offer some help the best way I could.
I suggested that she maybe try to reach out to some people or even make new connections but I didn’t know if my advice was helpful because “I’m not a therapist”
She said that she didn’t ask me to fix anything but she did try to reach out to people like I suggested, I then get a text message from her seconds later about how me and her can’t have this conversation because she assumes I’m not able to answer her and she just wanted a conversation with me and not for me to fix it.
I tell her (and I’ve told her a few times before) that I am her child and not a therapist, she then proceeds to ask what me being her child has to do anything with this conversation.
I then ask her what she wanted to exactly talk about because the way she worded things made it sound like she was asking for my help or advice, she responds by saying that she was just asking a question on if I feel disconnect from other people and didn’t know what part of it was her asking for help.
I then responded saying that I could’ve misinterpreted what she said to me.
I’m not exactly sure if I’m in the wrong here or not? Or if it’s just a giant misunderstanding from both ends, what do you guys think?
TL;DR - My mom has a questionably inappropriate conversation with her child who she treats like a therapist.