AITAH for bringing up a concern to my sister about a time conflict with her wedding?
My (22f) sister (24f), let’s call her Erin, got engaged a couple months ago and she is over the moon, as am I. This is something she’s been dreaming about for YEARS… like she has had Pinterest boards since middle school. I’m so so excited to see her dreams come true. She has also made it clear for a long time that I would be her maid of honor. I have been slowly crafting the MOH speech and I’m so excited to share it
I’m also entering my last year of my undergraduate degree. I’m a first generation student so being able to walk across the stage is something very important to me. Graduation dates normally fall around the middle/end of May. I’m also graduating with my masters degree the year after, which is sort of relevant here.
When Erin was talking to me about possible wedding dates, I brought up my graduation and maybe setting it closer to the end of May or closer to June and she considered it. I knew it was a long shot but I still wanted to get it in her mind.
So Erin picked her wedding date last week, and she picked the date less than a week before I’m supposed to graduate college. That’s not my biggest worry. Her wedding date is RIGHT in the middle of my finals week. I ended up bringing up my concern about the date because if there’s a finals the day before, after, or of the wedding, I wouldn’t be fully in it, along with the fact that I need to study a lot beforehand. I tried assuring her that if I needed to, I could find possible accommodations for the finals and take them earlier or later if possible and she recognized that.
The day after that conversation, Erin told me that she had a mental breakdown to our mom about my concern and considered cancelling the whole wedding because of it. I reassured her again that I can try changing my finals dates but since it’s a year from now, I’m still unsure.
Everyone that I’ve asked about this says I’m not an asshole for bringing this up to her because it’s valid for me to be worried but I’m still unsure. I know my life doesn’t revolve around her and she isn’t obligated to accommodate to my schedule, but I also want to be able to be fully involved in the best day of her life as her MOH. So AITAH?