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My gf [43f] says she wants to spend the rest of her life with me[41m] but she can't do monogamous relationship she wants the intimacy from. Me but does t know how to do anything but open relationships I have stated I dont want to have an open relationship and she said she will try to be monogmas because she doesn't want to lose me however I feel like she is pushing me tk try certain things sexjally with other people and can set it up and since she knows about it it will be OK. I dont want to do anything sexually with anyone else if it doesn't involve her what do I do? I have expressed this multiple times but it only seems to be ok a few days then we are back to this and just feels like she's maki g excuses like in the past the bf have always cheated im not that type and dont have a track record of it. I have suggested threesomes because we would both be involved or voyerism and some ground rules but j dont know she just seems to keep pushing that she struggles with the idea and can feel trapped while saying she qants to live with me and raise our kids together

Dating a few months im looking for advice on how to handle this or what to do from here? [43f], [41m]

Gf refers to our relationship as being forced into a box because it is a closed relationship however we discussed this prior to being in a relationship I dont do open relationships with people I genuinely care about expressed my fears. She said she is willing g to be closed and wants to raise kids with me and marry me however she feels monogamy is a box she feels trapped in. What do i do? In past relationships she has had she was forced to be monogmas while they cheated and im not like that but I do get it. But I feel defeated almost it will hurt to lose her but should i hang in there and work through it will it get better? [43f],[41m]

My gf [43f] says she wants to spend the rest of her life with me[41m] but she can't do monogamous relationship she wants the intimacy from. Me but does t know how to do anything but open relationships I have stated I dont want to have an open relationship and she said she will try to be monogmas because she doesn't want to lose me however I feel like she is pushing me tk try certain things sexjally with other people and can set it up and since she knows about it it will be OK. I dont want to do anything sexually with anyone else if it doesn't involve her what do I do? I have expressed this multiple times but it only seems to be ok a few days then we are back to this and just feels like she's maki g excuses like in the past the bf have always cheated im not that type and dont have a track record of it. I have suggested threesomes because we would both be involved or voyerism and some ground rules but j dont know she just seems to keep pushing that she struggles with the idea and can feel trapped while saying she qants to live with me and raise our kids together

Dating a few months im looking for advice on how to handle this or what to do from here? [43f], [41m]