u/Equivalent-Debate717

"Guys, can you help me figure out what's going on with this guy? I’m an attractive girl, or at least well within the conventional standards (29), and I’ve started going to my neighborhood gym after recovering from a very severe illness. The gym is also a swimming club, and everyone has known each other forever. The guy in charge of the gym in the mornings is very handsome—he’s a national swimming champion—and at first, he was quite serious and reserved, but little by little he’s been warming up to me. He fist-bumps me, sometimes encourages me, smiles at me, and when I talk to him he laughs; I really feel like there's a vibe.

The other day I went for a swim and he was there because he also coaches people in swimming. I went to grab my water bottle and he pretended to kick it just to tease me before sliding it over. Then I stayed behind to listen to the class instead of swimming, and he laughed and told me that I was going to be the next one to try the exercise. I said no, that I was too embarrassed, and after a while, he insisted, saying 'Come on, get over here and do it,' so I ended up participating in an personal training session for free. I asked him how much it could cost to train with him and he told me we’d talk about it the next day at the gym (he remembered that I go on Tuesdays).

That day arrived and he was with his friends; he didn't ask me anything and was pretty much doing his own thing and being serious again. It's like sometimes he’s serious and acts like I don't exist, not even looking at me, and other times I feel like he pays a lot of attention to me and laughs a lot at anything I say. He’s driving me a bit crazy and I don't know what he thinks of me! Honestly, he’s usually serious with everyone except his friends, and I’ve never seen him talking to girls in a way that wasn't serious, so he doesn't seem like the typical player either. What do you guys think? Why does his attitude change so much, and why does it feel like there’s chemistry but then he never asks me anything?"

"Guys, can you help me figure out what's going on with this guy? I’m an attractive girl, or at least well within the conventional standards (29), and I’ve started going to my neighborhood gym after recovering from a very severe illness. The gym is also a swimming club, and everyone has known each other forever. The guy in charge of the gym in the mornings is very handsome—he’s a national swimming champion—and at first, he was quite serious and reserved, but little by little he’s been warming up to me. He fist-bumps me, sometimes encourages me, smiles at me, and when I talk to him he laughs; I really feel like there's a vibe.

The other day I went for a swim and he was there because he also coaches people in swimming. I went to grab my water bottle and he pretended to kick it just to tease me before sliding it over. Then I stayed behind to listen to the class instead of swimming, and he laughed and told me that I was going to be the next one to try the exercise. I said no, that I was too embarrassed, and after a while, he insisted, saying 'Come on, get over here and do it,' so I ended up participating in an personal training session for free. I asked him how much it could cost to train with him and he told me we’d talk about it the next day at the gym (he remembered that I go on Tuesdays).

That day arrived and he was with his friends; he didn't ask me anything and was pretty much doing his own thing and being serious again. It's like sometimes he’s serious and acts like I don't exist, not even looking at me, and other times I feel like he pays a lot of attention to me and laughs a lot at anything I say. He’s driving me a bit crazy and I don't know what he thinks of me! Honestly, he’s usually serious with everyone except his friends, and I’ve never seen him talking to girls in a way that wasn't serious, so he doesn't seem like the typical player either. What do you guys think? Why does his attitude change so much, and why does it feel like there’s chemistry but then he never asks me anything?"