Annoyed at my mother-in-law
My husband and I have a 3 year old toddler and will be having another on the way later this year. My husband is the bread winner of our family while I am the stay at home parent.
Mother in law in the past 3 years of my son’s life have not once called/text, came over to the house (lives 15mins away), to spend time or get to know him. Every time when we are out with her, she just minds her own business and never engages with him. This part doesn’t bug me as much since I believe people show who they are by how they act. She doesn’t want to be involved, fine, that’s on her.
For years shes been getting some financial support from my husband. She gets government assistance, lives with my brother in law. We covered her phone bills, car insurance, and credit card spendings. Earlier this year, after a sit down discussion with my husband, we have decided to remove her from our credit card, and stop paying her phone bill. We only cover car insurance now. How I see it is, we have been paying for her phone bill that she never called to check in on us on, car insurance that she doesn’t even drive to visit us, and credit card spendings without a single gift for my son in the past 3 years. We had to make some adjustments with another kid on the way, and I’m glad it’s the end of the chapter in having her on our card.
Since we’ve taken away her credit card, things with her have been sooo negative. We told her the news of our baby on the way, and I kid you not, she CRIED! Not of excitement or joy, but because she feels my husband is abandoning her! That with another kid my husband will no longer care for her and that he will focus on his family and she’s not happy about it, she’s sad. WHAT?!?
She then said she needs a credit card from us in that same sentence.
Some weeks have passed and she would send long voice notes to my husband about how lonely she is, how hard she struggled to raise him and how my husband doesn’t love her anymore and is now abandoning her. She’s guilt tripping him through and through on texts and voice messages.
What I really can’t stand was today we FaceTimed her. She was all happy asking about my pregnancy and wishing everything is going well, how far along I am, acting all like she cares. And then BAM! I need a debit card from you guys. My husband was surprised she asked about the baby and it made him happy for a second she showed cared. To me it was sooo transactional and she has a motive!
I’m just soooo annoyed