u/Expulsito

How do I get her to stop forcing me to do my hobbies? She forces me to the point that I don’t want them to be my hobbies anymore.

Ima give you one example of this phenomenon:

Okay, so I (16M) recently started skateboarding as a hobby. I like to like wake up early in the morning and go to a nearby churches parking lot since i have like social anxiety and really don’t like other people looking at me while i skateboard 😭. I wish to remain unbothered. This church parking lot is very secluded and no one is there to bother me.

When my mom (42F), discovered this hobby of mine she was pretty supportive I suppose. Okay, sweet, that’s good I guess. I suppose this is because she doesn’t want me to just stay in my room all day.

The issue is, she like gets too passionate about what hobbies I have and skateboarding is no exception. I usually skateboard most mornings but sometimes I don’t due to wanting to do other things. This morning my mom was like “why don’t you want to skateboard? why don’t you want to skateboard?” which is annoying. I don’t want to be constantly questioned about my hobbies but still, no big deal.

My mom got angry though that I’m not constantly or consistently enough pursuing my hobby. She got angry that I was at home. And at like 1pm she forced me to go outside with my skateboard. Uhggg, at 1 pm there’s just so many people looking at me, too many people awake. I told her I didn’t want to do it right now but she yelled at me and made me.

she legit, like one would walk a dog, walked me bro 😭. She literally forced me to ride my skateboard next to her while she walked around the neighborhood. BRO WTF, she was legit walking me like a dog, that’s embarrassing. I was pissed bro I was just not in the mood to skateboard at all. and there were people passing us on the other side of the road walking their dogs and waving to us, i’m not social, i don’t want to wave back, i hate that these people are looking at me. It’s embarrassing, i know i look goofy being led around the neighborhood being forced to skateboard by my mom. I was trying to like tell her “hey, i don’t want to do this” but she would like respond by yelling and i was embarrassed cause i don’t want the whole neighborhood to hear us “arguing” im not even arguing, i just don’t want them to hear her yelling at me.

She walked me/led me/made me skate to an abandoned house and was like “go around in circles on the drive way, do it, do it, do it” and she made me go around in circles in the drive way. The issue was that since i was being forced to do it, i was just not in the mood bro, i wanted to stop, so obviously if i was in a bad mood id be bad at skating. And like bruhhhh i fell off my board and scrapped my hands and my board went across the road. And she made me walk and collect my board that was across the road, so i had to do a waaalk of shame, it was embarrassing man and it like honestly destroyed the passion i had for skateboarding.

I just straight up don’t want to do it anymore after being forced.

I reckon she thinks that she’s “helping me” by “encouraging me to pursue passions and hobbies” but no bro, she just forces me to do shit when she discovers i have a hobby which ends up making me hate the hobby.

I know this isn’t really like that big of a deal so perhaps the way this effects me psychologically isn’t very apparent in this text of mine but even if it’s nothing major it still sucks man :(

i’m not gonna go to that church parking lot tomorrow, i was planning to, i was gonna use this day just to chill and then skateboard tomorrow but she forced me to do stuff i don’t want and i just don’t want to do my original plans anymore, get what i mean?

i just wish she’d leave me alone and not be breathing down my neck when it comes to my own personal interests

i’ve known my mom (42f) since i was born bro, and she’s always been like this. This is why i never share my hobbies with her but unfortunately she discovered that i liked to skateboard and ruined my vibes.

this is gonna sound harsh but i think its cause she has no friends so she like, is too attached or like too idk how to phrase it, too into my business, you know?

am i like overreacting? is this like a normal thing for a parent to do to their kid?

what do i do to get her to stop bothering me and stop forcing me to do things after she discovers what im passionate about?

Also, I feel like this is the reason i have no hobbies

OH! another example of this is when I mentioned to my mom that i wanna learn spanish and she forced me to sit at a table for 4 hours and yelled at me if i wasn’t like reading about spanish conjugation. She yelled at me if I got distracted. I stopped wanting to learn spanish…

Another example is when i started like working out and doing pushups and lifting weights and stuff. When she discovered i was doing this she was like “oh, that’s great” and then forced me to do it. She’d force me to exercise bro. Like, if i didn’t do an hour of exercise she would yell at me and take my phone away 😭

TLDR: i (16m) got into hobby of skateboarding, mom (42f) discovered this hobby and forced me to do it when i didn’t want to which made me not like skateboarding anymore. This is something she does to me with every hobby i ever had. What do i do to get her to stop bothering me and stop forcing me to do things after she discovers what im passionate about?